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Thank You, Next , https://youtu.be/gl1aHhXnN1k  

SakuraMar 49F
200 posts
12/11/2019 7:50 pm
Thank You, Next , https://youtu.be/gl1aHhXnN1k

Thank You, Next , ://youtu.be/gl1aHhXnN1k
Opening oneself to the possibility of more. Some people on here have that hope. Or, keep their options open to include this possibility. To imagine that a person that you are attracted to and someone you begin have sex with could be more.
There are very negative opinions on the matter. Plenty of those have had such bad experiences meeting people or worse yet getting stood up by people. So much so that anything more seems impossible and impractical. I do see their point of view. It is a hard knock life most of the time. You might not know it or want to believe it has happened on this site.
I realize that the adult part is for the people want sex and just sex. However, there's no reason why some people can't find their sexual match and then decide to see if they can have a relationship. There IS Friend in the title as well. So I don't think that straight sex is all there is to it on here
I have witnessed burgeoning love and romance. I have spoken with those met and married from meeting here. I have watched as two members went from living states apart to moving in with each other and being content or happy. I myself have even been swept away. No, unfortunately it did not turn well for me. However, it has not made me bitter or vengeful.
Instead, it has me believing that it is possible, with the right person. I do not let myself get driven away. Even though for a time I might be self conscious and have low self confidence. I am not ashamed to admit it. Because I am proud of the fact that I get back up and I soldier on. One person cannot get me down for long and they will not be able to completely break me. I am too strong and stubborn for that.
One might think that means that I was not deep with feelings. They might say that I was lying about deep feelings. It is easier for a person to knock someone down than to believe that they are they say they are. That they can learn a<b> lesson </font></b>from the experience and keep moving forward. It does not in any way mean that there were no feelings or that the feelings were not deep enough. If the person and the circumstances are not the right ones. Well, I think that it is a good thing. Because it gives another opportunity to find the right person and the right circumstances.
I have no reasons to stay stuck. Not with someone cannot except all of me. Not with someone expects me to stuff myself into being a person I am not or being in a life that does not embrace me. I am not going to be miserable stuffing myself into a life to please one person or people. For what? So they get all the benefits and all the happiness and I only get the crust?
No thank you.
No one should settle for that.
So the only logical conclusion is to pick oneself up and move forward. Lamenting over what is lost might let pent up feelings for a week or so. After that all one is doing is drowning in negativity and getting nowhere.
Sorry, not sorry for getting over you and not pining.
Sorry, not sorry for having a life with progress.
Sorry, not sorry, but I am not going to keep the memories.
Take care and enjoy your life. I plan on keeping my options open. I plan on being positive. I plan on still seeing that people have good in them. Do not let negative people or negative experiences swallow you up. If you still have hope, there is no reason to hide it. Consequently, those are hella bent on being negative. To you I say, keep it to yourself. If you have given up, it is on you. Do not go around dumping your crap on people still have hope. Do not make fun of people are still brave enough to do what you have given up. Being negative is doing you no good at all. Start finding hope and happiness in something in your life. None of those things should be dependent on another person.
I like the quote on my profile. "Find happiness within yourself and no one can take it away from you". Having someone special in your life should enhance your happiness, not BE your happiness. Look inside yourself. Find what you can be passionate about. I'm passionately curious. I want to learn about everything. I'm passionate about my photography. I hate school and I don't want to go to school to learn how to be a professional. But through trial and error and talking with other people I keep learning. None of those things require another person.
It's for me.
I try my best to stay positive. In no way do I say it lightly. No, it isn't easy. But you just keep at it and you keep trying. Fake it till you make it....and cue popular cliches.
Life is hard enough day to day. Life is just as hard alone as it is with the wrong person. So do not settle, just because you feel lonely and alone. Don't make another person your happiness. Find the right person for you. Find the person can enhance your life. (This also goes to those have or love more than one person. If the shoe fits everyone, then wear it)


Sakura Just Saying, Be kind it doesn't cost you anything


wackerpp 53M
256 posts
12/12/2019 10:30 am

yes !
no point living a crappy unhappy life. At least when you are alone you can go for a booty call or just mastrubate whenever you get the urge.


RockKickAss69XXX 55M

12/12/2019 7:28 am

Good Advice.
Same reason I'm not married.
You shouldn't settle for the one you can live with.
You should try for the one you can't live without.


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