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would you date a person on AFF who lies?  

G000dbuddy 34M  
964 posts
11/19/2021 9:04 am

Last Read:
12/3/2021 11:26 pm

would you date a person on AFF who lies?

If you met someone on DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples who lied about EVERYTHING on their profile, (hair color, weight, height, no pix-they are a 'public figure' etc.) only when you meet them in person you feel a 'spark' would you....
Just walk away, before even speaking to him/her...You're tired of being lied to?
Go on the date but 'vent' about it later in a blog?
Just ask them WHY they lied, with all they really have 'going on' ?
Depends on nice looking, nice personality
Blast them for deceiving you, walk away p**ed, never speak to them
block &report them
Other


goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:26 pm

    Quoting elderberry50:
    I make it clear what I'm wanting. They can lie all they want as long a I get what I want.
His Friends Act Weird Around You: If he's cheating on you, his friends probably know. They wouldn't tell you out of loyalty to him, but they're bound to feel guilty as they're betraying your trust as well.

It is important to remember several things. The most important thing is that a single sign of infidelity does not mean that he is cheating on you. He could really have a new, staggered schedule at work and he's not enjoying it either. Maybe he had to fire someone and that's why he's being moody.

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:25 pm

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    I would ask them why they lied.
    I would never be intimate with them. No serious relationship. I cannot handle liars.
A New and Constantly Changing Schedule: This may not be obvious, especially for men who have a loose schedule, but it can be easy to spot in men who have nine-to-five jobs. Suddenly, they have to spend a few extra nights at work, never in a row. Sometimes it's a weekend, sometimes it's just a day, but it's different. Be especially wary if this schedule coincided with a new secretary or at a party where he met a pretty lady

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:24 pm

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    I would consider having sex with her, but definitely nothing more. Been there, done that, got the scars.
Lack of Affection: It could be any number of things, and some signs are more obvious than others. He could simply hug or kiss you less. In more severe cases, he may stop saying "I love you" or is more interested in a random show or Youtube video than you and your new outfit or lingerie.

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:23 pm

    Quoting uwantthisblkmn:
    I have zero tolerance for liars. Being honest and truthful on this site goes a long way.
He's Moody and Easily Offended: His mood picks up when you're about to go and he always seems down when you arrive. Cheating or not, that's a terrible sign, though it could just as easily be because he has the opportunity to hang out with his new lover. He could also become sensitive to any comments you make about him, no matter how harmless.

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:22 pm

    Quoting  :

• He Was Once a Cheater: While precedent doesn't mean that he'll do it again, what it does mean is that he is capable of doing it. It doesn't speak negatively of you or your qualities as a person. It just means that he's a selfish person who doesn't care what you think. People who've cheated can be trusted – perhaps it was just a mistake – but it's a safe bet that you'll want to keep your guard up for a while

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:21 pm

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    If they lied and deceived, I walk away.
Negative Statements About the Future: Every couple goes through fights, but only the most severe fights should bring up thoughts about breaking up. If he constantly brings up the end of the relationship, even if you seem to be doing well, he could be thinking of leaving you for another woman, or that he's confident that there's someone waiting for him if your relationship goes south. Even if he's not cheating on you, this kind of talk shouldn't go unnoticed

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 11:20 pm

He's Picking a Lot of Fights: If he keeps calling you fat or does things that you both know irritates you, he could be trying to push you away so he can spend some time with someone else. He could also be picking a fight because he's feeling guilty about his infidelity.

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 1:05 am

    Quoting soyRocioalta1233:
    Es dificil mentirme
    chequeo mucho antes de concertar una cita
    lo vere por camara o videollamada
    todos mienten

    de una manera u otra
    la Gra!!
    la libertad de no mentir es un lujo
Are you better off alone at this point? This is a huge question for people who have never spent a significant amount of adulthood as a single person. Some people go from relationship to relationship without finding time for personal needs. You are the only one who knows if being single is the answer you need. Avoid the hassles of dating if the singles scene is not right for you. Return to the dating scene for the right reasons, not because you dread being alone

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 1:03 am

    Quoting devilinhereyes72:
    I’d ask why they lied.. but would not date them.. any relationship that starts based on a lie is doomed… the foundation of trust can’t be built.. and you never know what else they lie about.. not worth it…
Deal with other mental and emotional baggage. When you think about what went wrong in past relationships, you can identify at least one thing you needed to fix about yourself. For example, you might have repressed anger that causes you to lash out at a partner, a loved one, or a friend. Returning to single life creates an opportunity to seek therapy or to join a support group. Let others help you dump your mental and emotional problems

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 1:02 am

Let go of the jilted lover drama. You have to give yourself time to heal from the rejection of your most recent lover and to release any bitterness in your heart. Some people eventually view a relationship that ends unexpectedly as a blessing in disguise, while other people can never get past the rejection. Be sure you have made some kind of peace with negative feelings about your last relationship so that negativity does not sour your future relationships

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 1:01 am

    Quoting lyavu:
    Once a liar , always a liar
Now is the right time to take stock of yourself. Face it. You are older and wiser. You might expect to find different qualities in a future dating partner, especially based on lessons learned in the relationship that just ended unexpectedly. Think about what you have to offer, what type of partner you seek, and what boundaries you will set this time.

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 1:00 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    Integrity is the cornerstone of trust.........If they lack that, there's nothing that can make up for it.
Dating an unambitious person can be very annoying to an ambitious person. Being 'easy going' is one thing, but an unambitious person doesn't set goals. If she or he does set goals, they merely talk about them and never attempt to get to them with much effort. If an unambitious man loses his job, it could take him quite a while to even begin looking for a new one. He may even try to sabotage your success. He will attempt to pull you away from your dreams. He will distract you and get upset with you for working so hard, while he works as little as he possibly can

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 12:58 am

This is not meant in the illegal way, but in regards to personality. Being a kid at heart is great. Everyone should be a kid at heart. But everyone should also be an adult when they need to be. If you're in a relationship where you have to play a parent role every day, it's unlikely you will respect your partner very much. Maybe you need to tell him to pick up after him because he won't do it himself. Maybe he asks you questions you might expect from a 5 year old such as "what's for dinner?" or "what are we doing today?" You feel like you need to make all the decisions and take care of everything when you're dating someone who acts more like a child than an adult

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 12:56 am

    Quoting lyavu:
    My question is, how many tell the truth ? Lol
Someone who is a spender, doesn't think about things that might happen down the line. He or she wants to live in the present and enjoy their money. They may even overspend with credit cards, which is something that you need to be cautious of. Marrying someone with debt can effect you. If he or she will not or cannot pay of their debts now, what chance is there he will in the future? Think ahead to if one of you loses your job. Since you were the only saver, you will be the one covering the expenses. It's often hard for a saver to be involved with someone who is constantly throwing money away

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 12:55 am

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    I would consider having sex with her, but definitely nothing more. Been there, done that, got the scars.
Someone that you should probably not date is someone who is a pessimist. A pessimist is negative about everything and will find anything to complain about. A pessimist can turn something that seems good into something horrible. No matter how optimistic you are, eventually the pessimism will wear you down. Sometimes an optimist is a good influence on a pessimist, but your relationship shouldn't be a job in fixing someone else's attitude. For an optimist, a pessimist can be very toxic

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
12/3/2021 12:54 am

A selfless person and a self-centred person
If you are a selfless person, you probably enjoy not only helping those around you, but donating or volunteering at places like soup kitchens and shelters. Someone who is self-centred does not understand or appreciate the actions of a selfless person unless they are all directed at him. He doesn't mind when your selfless acts benefit him, but if you take time away from him to help others, he will be quite unhappy. Don't expect him to come along with you and help others, because it's unlikely to happen. He likes things to revolve around him

goodbuddy781


lyavu 49F
1538 posts
12/1/2021 6:01 pm

Once a liar , always a liar


agelesssexylegs 79F
1145 posts
11/24/2021 8:45 pm

Would not like them as friends if i found out they lied,and certainly not base a relationship on lies


G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
11/24/2021 8:05 am

People sometimes commit to relationships too quickly without getting to know their partners well enough. A woman may find that her partner is an excellent lover but lacks in other areas of the relationship. A man may find that his beautiful wife does not want children although he has always hoped for a large family. These people did not take the time to get to know their partners well enough. People often confuse infatuation or attraction for love. Infatuation is not true love. Attraction is not true love. True love may begin with attraction and infatuation but true love continues on and goes much deeper. True love develops over time as a bond forms between two people.

goodbuddy781


lyavu 49F
1538 posts
11/24/2021 12:54 am

My question is, how many tell the truth ? Lol


PonyGirl1965 57F
22090 posts
11/19/2021 11:52 pm

I would ask them why they lied.
I would never be intimate with them. No serious relationship. I cannot handle liars.


devilinhereyes72 50F
293 posts
11/19/2021 8:22 pm

I’d ask why they lied.. but would not date them.. any relationship that starts based on a lie is doomed… the foundation of trust can’t be built.. and you never know what else they lie about.. not worth it…


Brownie202 65F  
2680 posts
11/19/2021 3:17 pm

No I would not.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


elderberry50 72M
118 posts
11/19/2021 2:08 pm

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    I would consider having sex with her, but definitely nothing more. Been there, done that, got the scars.
I make it clear what I'm wanting. They can lie all they want as long a I get what I want.


mufdiver69er2 62M  
1951 posts
11/19/2021 1:27 pm

wondering Dan...is that you? back again?

woop woop


lust4life59 63F  
2552 posts
11/19/2021 12:46 pm

Integrity is the cornerstone of trust.........If they lack that, there's nothing that can make up for it.


uwantthisblkmn 58M  
29 posts
11/19/2021 12:28 pm

I have zero tolerance for liars. Being honest and truthful on this site goes a long way.


hardguy0051 70M
503 posts
11/19/2021 11:47 am

I would consider having sex with her, but definitely nothing more. Been there, done that, got the scars.


soyRocioalta1233 66F  
2014 posts
11/19/2021 10:58 am

Es dificil mentirme
chequeo mucho antes de concertar una cita
lo vere por camara o videollamada
todos mienten

de una manera u otra
la Gra!!
la libertad de no mentir es un lujo

[SIZE 9]
pasa por mi blog seras bienvenido/a
ya no hay secretos


1seeking1 57F
3767 posts
11/19/2021 10:24 am

If they lied and deceived, I walk away.


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