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It's important.
Posted:Feb 9, 2019 9:33 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2019 12:12 pm

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I hope that, whoever you are, you escape this place. I hope that the world turns, and that things get better. But what I hope most of all is that you understand what I mean when I tell you that, even though I do not know you, and even though I may never meet you, laugh with you, cry with you, or kiss you, I love you. With all my heart, I love you. - V for Vendetta

Truer words may never be spoken. I know this site is for connections . but just in case I might be your last bastion of hope. Please know your are worthy, you are not a waste of space, you are loved.
You know what I don't get
Posted:Feb 9, 2019 9:22 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2019 12:12 pm

Today's culture in general has me baffled. The double standards we have for almost everything, especially sex. Salt N Pepa 1993 song None of your Business should have quelled all slut shaming yet here we are.

I don't understand why women are seen as a slut (why is it a bad thing to be in touch with your desires) if they want a MFM yet a man is a king for having a FFM. Why is it that some acts are acceptable if one sex does them yet shameful if the other sex attempts it. I've spoken before about women mushroom gardens on here before but seriously why is that acceptable?

Why are women attacked more than man. If a women gets a career, she is plagued with when are you going to settle down and have kids, yet if she stays home with said kids she's viewed as a unambitious stay at home mom? It's like the system is rigged from both sides.

I just don't understand, having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Anyways, enjoy your Coke Zero.
Tis the season of Mass Murders... I mean Valentines Day
Posted:Feb 2, 2019 1:09 pm
Last Updated:Feb 2, 2019 1:11 pm

Febuary 14th, I really dislike this holiday. I really think it causes more problems than it's worth. I refuse to celebrate.

With that said, I will explain. I am a hopeless romantic, I believe in love (I have another blog describing what love is), and I do not think 1 day a year is enough.
If I am sharing my life with you, regardless of romance or as the Greeks would say Eros (lusty) kind of love or brotherly love (Philia) or the gold standard of love (Agape). I will make sure you know you are more important than 1 day of presents and a night of overpriced food. If you are sharing your life with someone make them a priority once a day, once a week, once a month. Make a concerned effort to tell them in multipule ways, "Hey you are important to me." If that's a call during your lunch break, a note left when you went to work, doing a chore for them. Find out their love language and proceed, but do it often.

It is not even hard, lets set up a calender. Once a month. that is 12 times a year. Divide that by catergories: Treats, flowers, and Surprise outings. That 3 things to do 4 times a year. Go to your calendar, go to the below website, do it 12 times, recording each random number. Now assign each random number to a month, and the what each you are going to do for your SO, and violà a seemly random way to tell someone I love you without it being cheesy or over marketed.

If you are enjoying someone's body and having them enjoy yours. You are spending time with a person you enriches your life and hopefully you are enriching theirs. Please tell them in anyway you can. "You are important!" " You matter!", I would add the "You are important to me" "You matter to me" in there .
If your person you share your life with is there say something because sooner or later, time will run out, and you will never have the chance to say it or they will never hear you.

Please do it more than once a year. Please do it, and do it often. Not because society says do it on this day February 14th or they will be hurt and heartbroken and leave you. Do it because you can, do it for yourself. Do it because all kinds love should be celebrated the entire year.
Chivalry is not dead.
Posted:Jan 30, 2019 11:37 am
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2019 10:02 am

I do think however, it is dying. I think the true code of chivalry was just being nice to women. Chivalry was the list of a certain set of actions and the reasons for those actions, that gave males a glimpse at being nice to women on there terms. For example, walking with the man on the side of the street in case of splash back from a passing vehicle. The reason for this is, she invested time on her image to look nice, the least you can do is try to protect her investment. Or she’s wearing ankle killers known as high heels, the least you can do is help her into her seat by pushing her chair in so she doesn’t have to put any more weight on those things than absolutely necessary. After all, she’s only wearing them to make her butt look nice.
I think that was the first attempt, as a society to start joining man and woman in society as equals. I admit, it went a little crazy specially if you look at the what’s expected of women in the 1950s.
But then I think it got rebranded in the 60s and 70s, to being a nice guy. We’ve all heard that term I’m just a nice guy. Which is code for I’m a douche bag. I think Chivalry went exact same way, and that’s why it was rebranded. In today society, it took neuroscientists to figure out people like you more if you are nice to them. These men not understanding the rules or wishing to ignore them. Hid underneath the code or the term I’m just a nice guy, to attempt to lure women to be with them.
But I think that’s one of the cool things about today’s age like with the Gillette men commercial, that we’re not letting men get away with it anymore. You either are an asshole or you are the standup gentleman you say you are. No middle ground, as there should never have been any middle ground.

Which gives me hope that chivalry is not dead, in fact it’s getting better.
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What are we doing here?
Posted:Jan 27, 2019 12:21 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2019 10:02 am

You are enough, you are special. If you've taken the time (Less than 5 minutes) to watch the video above. You've heard some poetry that speaks to me.

I wish I could write or speak as eloquently as my thoughts would have themselves expressed. Sadly I open my mouth and more often then not "What?" of "Uh" slips between my lips and reaches the rest of the world before I was ready to speak.

On this site there are people just looking for a connection, myself included. Perhaps, that is, all we are doing. In the form of the flesh or between minds and hearts. We wish to share our lives, our experiences, our hopes and dreams. We want to share them as a way of saying "This is me" and have someone look at it and utter the words "Beautiful!" then do same to us. So in the end Good, Bad, Broken, Hurt, whatever we are, whatever is the truest version of ourselves. Someone in this life has recognize us for who we are and did not reject us, but formed a connection, one hopefully we will carry on for the rest of our lives.
Love, It exists.
Posted:Jan 25, 2019 6:31 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2019 10:02 am

I was indirectly asked is love out there. Love exists; Love. Above all things I believe in love. Love is like oxygen. Love is a many splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love.

But what is love? 1st Corinthians chapter verse 4-8 states:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

With that interpretation I believe Love is a choice. I believe that if you are going to be in love with someone, know what you are measuring yourself up against. Can you be patient, kind? Can you be happy for them? Not boast to others about their accomplishments as a way to bolster yourself? Can you admit to them when you are in the wrong? Can you take your partners wishes and respect them? Put your chosen ones needs above your own? Can you forgive, be accepting without bringing up the past? Can you be upfront with them with the hard subjects, bring up the most uncomfortable and/or embarrassing subjects and still trust them. Do you dream of a future with them? Are you willing to come what may? Because if you can, than your love will never fail.

Lust, attractions, the giddiness of something new, someone new, and the oxytocin (Literally the love drug) that our brain releases, not so much. The saying you can't help who you love, I don't believe to be true, or rather you can't help who you are attracted to may be more accurate. And I find that most people of today's age believe that this is what love is. A feeling, fleeting as it is... but it is not without joy. Remember to say thank you for stopping by.
How I feel about Dic Pics
Posted:Jan 23, 2019 4:45 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2019 10:02 am

Honestly, the British guys got a point, quite comical, but serious.
I understand that some girls want to see the goods before the investing any energy, but really, they will tell you. I just don't understand a pic as your profile picture. It's a little disturbing that every women on here, has fans that make it look as if she's collecting mushrooms.

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