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IM and Inbox should be FREE!  

SlipperyNSensual 22F
95 posts
11/22/2020 12:12 am
IM and Inbox should be FREE!


I think it's pretty self explanatory, but just in case you didn't get the memo...

IM and Inbox should be FREE!

If you agree, please leave a comment below!

The short of it is that it costs to us anything here at , and it's clear there are not enough women participating here. Mostly for the blog post I made before that of you should check out, but also because it's tough to justify staying after seeing what stops people from staying.

Here in Metro Detroit, there are hardly any women, but tons of men. Why? No incentive for women to stay. I'm probably helping boost interaction on here, and I don't even get tossed a bone for it. It's pretty lame, but what do you expect when there is no real way to connect with the people behind the curtain without them being pissy.

If IM and inbox were free for users, I'm sure there would be a better balance of people here. Though also make it safer for people too.

LocalMilkMan2020 31M
14 posts
11/22/2020 1:22 am

Facts.
But mostly the people on here are fake or just confused


Sex_nut1984 36M
24 posts
11/22/2020 3:16 am

Definitely agree


ScarletSophia_ 55F
38 posts
11/22/2020 3:37 am

I agree. The lack of availability makes initial interactions difficult


dogslife2live01 68M
2191 posts
11/22/2020 3:41 am

well you could always broadcast with a buzztoy shoved in you. if you add as much value as you believe, you should make enough points in one hour for a lifetime membership.
bonne chance

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


SingleItalianGy2 48M  
1037 posts
11/22/2020 3:59 am

I agree.... and realize up until this year most women and couples were given free GOLD MEMBERSHIP if they were active for 2 weeks or reached a certain plateau of CAM VIEWERS. I've been a member for23 yrs. I remember having to wait for people to exit a room before being let in. I remember a time when no less then 50 CAMS had at least 500 to 1000 viewers each in a single night. I remember when EMAILS, IM and CAM VIEWS didn't cost you a thing.


Mischief9669 45F
5 posts
11/22/2020 4:09 am

Couldn't agree more. This site is a 'mare to navigate and yet is super popular. How so?!


profcoquin27bis 56M
3551 posts
11/22/2020 4:16 am

I totally agree, there are many more men than women here and unfortunately many of these women are venal or fake.


MrWrong4RghtNow 54M  
705 posts
11/22/2020 4:51 am

There is no doubt that IM and mailing should be free.


Brownie202 63F
1931 posts
11/22/2020 5:14 am

So do not agree. You can always make bb a free site. This is a business. They want to make money. Poorly run yes but a business.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


TicklePlease 52F  
12990 posts
11/22/2020 5:27 am

If the IM and inbox were free for all users, the site would quickly become another Craigs-list casual encounters section for the broke folks and a free advertising space for the professional folks.


bbuckwwheat 61M
5161 posts
11/22/2020 5:40 am

You might consider a private mail blog post so that more conversations might happen. Instructions and an example are found at BiggLala

I am sure, based on what I have read of other women's experiences, that you will received plenty of interest. Block the disrespectful.

Private mailbox at my blog bbuckwwheat
Fayette, Iowa


Leegs2012 47M
57998 posts
11/22/2020 9:37 am

You are very intelligent. Great post!! I agree with ever word!


BiggLala 48F  
29057 posts
11/22/2020 9:56 am

If IM and inbox were free for users, I'm sure there would be a better balance of people here.
-No, it wouldn't level the balance. Both features were "free" several years ago, and the imbalance existed. There will almost always exist a gender imbalance on every sex/dating site, men will always outnumber women.

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MyBaffies 51M
4452 posts
11/22/2020 12:14 pm

As has been mentioned, mail and IM did used to be free for all members.

But since the membership has been steadily declining over the years, they have to rake in some kind of money to pay from it all from a continually diminishing public.

So out went the free communication to try and encourage the people that are left to upgrade.

Baffies

My Blog: MyBaffies


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:18 pm

    Quoting LocalMilkMan2020:
    Facts.
    But mostly the people on here are fake or just confused
Maybe they're both and don't realize it?


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:21 pm

    Quoting ScarletSophia_:
    I agree. The lack of availability makes initial interactions difficult
Seriously, I think I'm one of the only women in my area/city who is active on here. Everyone else is long gone or clearly a fake trying to sell you to another site. What gives with that?

Feel like the DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples leadership needs their teams checked on because they're losing a lot of potential people on here, unless this is all a front for something else.


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:23 pm

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    well you could always broadcast with a buzztoy shoved in you. if you add as much value as you believe, you should make enough points in one hour for a lifetime membership.
    bonne chance
This coming from someone who didn't even pay for a gold membership? Yeah, just because I like to show off doesn't mean I'm trying to use my body as my "money maker." I get actually get really pissed off at bimbos who don't do shit to earn their way through life and take advantage of people who are just too generous when it comes to potential careers. This is how you get halfass influencers on social media who don't know crap about who sponsors them. As long as they're hit that bare minimum, it's all good.


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:24 pm

    Quoting SingleItalianGy2:
    I agree.... and realize up until this year most women and couples were given free GOLD MEMBERSHIP if they were active for 2 weeks or reached a certain plateau of CAM VIEWERS. I've been a member for23 yrs. I remember having to wait for people to exit a room before being let in. I remember a time when no less then 50 CAMS had at least 500 to 1000 viewers each in a single night. I remember when EMAILS, IM and CAM VIEWS didn't cost you a thing.
Maybe one day it will change...


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:25 pm

    Quoting Mischief9669:
    Couldn't agree more. This site is a 'mare to navigate and yet is super popular. How so?!
Probably because it's been around a long time.


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:25 pm

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    There is no doubt that IM and mailing should be free.
Maybe it will change in time. We'll see.


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:27 pm

    Quoting Brownie202:
    So do not agree. You can always make bb a free site. This is a business. They want to make money. Poorly run yes but a business.
I'm so lost on this comment. Doesn't agree, but still thinks DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples is trash? No, I'm pretty sure you're on the same page as the rest of us and think they need a better way to bring in the money.


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:29 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    If the IM and inbox were free for all users, the site would quickly become another Craigs-list casual encounters section for the broke folks and a free advertising space for the professional folks.
If you want some Karen-level Premium Class for the Elite, by all means pitch that to DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples, but for the rest of us who rather be frugal with our money and get an established system that is safe, approachable, and doesn't try to milk us for what we have just because we took a breath of air, we want things to change.

I'm sure you've just accepted things as is because you've bought into this already, sinking in over $200.


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:33 pm

    Quoting BiggLala:
    If IM and inbox were free for users, I'm sure there would be a better balance of people here.
    -No, it wouldn't level the balance. Both features were "free" several years ago, and the imbalance existed. There will almost always exist a gender imbalance on every sex/dating site, men will always outnumber women.
Well how much did DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples actively try to get involved? Sounds like they threw you all the keys and you messed it up. Then those who ended up paying the $200 every year just accepted it as "well, that's my life, no reason to change it."

This is what I don't understand. Things were bad then as they are now, but worse now that nearly everything has a pay wall. I feel like I'm being ambushed by a country of senior citizens at times, yet there isn't much in the way of a sexy tinder or okcupid option out there otherwise.

You seem to be a bright woman, how would you suggest we make a better balance?


SlipperyNSensual 22F
28 posts
11/22/2020 3:35 pm

    Quoting MyBaffies:
    As has been mentioned, mail and IM did used to be free for all members.

    But since the membership has been steadily declining over the years, they have to rake in some kind of money to pay from it all from a continually diminishing public.

    So out went the free communication to try and encourage the people that are left to upgrade.
Maybe they should use the ads that actually target people for what they want instead of cam sites that don't get much money at all. Seriously, most porn online is free, so why does anyone pay for anything anymore? Try selling me on a discount for garbage bags instead of selling me garbage that may ruin my computer.


dogslife2live01 68M
2191 posts
11/23/2020 2:27 am

"This coming from someone who didn't even pay for a gold membership? Yeah, just because I like to show off doesn't mean I'm trying to use my body as my "money maker." I get actually get really pissed off at bimbos who don't do shit to earn their way through life and take advantage of people who are just too generous when it comes to potential careers. This is how you get halfass influencers on social media who don't know crap about who sponsors them. As long as they're hit that bare minimum, it's all good."
true true... but i am not here preaching on how life should be free
"If IM and inbox were free for users, I'm sure there would be a better balance of people here. Though also make it safer for people too."
in truth if IM and inbox were free there would be a higher number of scammers trying to entice the elderly, the lonely into their web of deceit.
all i was saying was that DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples does allow you to have "FREE" you just have to work for it... but seems you prefer the "give me" way.
bonne vie

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


TicklePlease 52F  
12990 posts
11/23/2020 5:21 am

    Quoting SlipperyNSensual:
    If you want some Karen-level Premium Class for the Elite, by all means pitch that to DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples, but for the rest of us who rather be frugal with our money and get an established system that is safe, approachable, and doesn't try to milk us for what we have just because we took a breath of air, we want things to change.

    I'm sure you've just accepted things as is because you've bought into this already, sinking in over $200.
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Lemme guess, you thought you'd sign up here and presto, you'll get free everything because you're young and think you're attractive. Two weeks later, after finding out that nobody is going to pay to contact your skanky ass, you have a tantrum on the blogs.

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BiggLala 48F  
29057 posts
11/23/2020 9:22 am

    Quoting SlipperyNSensual:
    Well how much did DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples actively try to get involved? Sounds like they threw you all the keys and you messed it up. Then those who ended up paying the $200 every year just accepted it as "well, that's my life, no reason to change it."

    This is what I don't understand. Things were bad then as they are now, but worse now that nearly everything has a pay wall. I feel like I'm being ambushed by a country of senior citizens at times, yet there isn't much in the way of a sexy tinder or okcupid option out there otherwise.

    You seem to be a bright woman, how would you suggest we make a better balance?
Well how much did DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples actively try to get involved?
-That's a question for DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples, is it not? I recall the tools available to members when I first joined. However, the site has discontinued many of them, especially the "free" tools. Going back to your assertion that the ratio would be more balanced with "free" stuff, I again tell you that isn't true. The m:f ratio has been askew for a long time, long before I joined. Plus, there will always be those that game the system to continue getting "free" stuff. I'm not condoning or condemning the site, but how long do you think a business can sustain itself without profit?

Sounds like they threw you all the keys and you messed it up.
-Threw me all the keys and I messed up? I don't know how what I said sounds that way to you. I've used the tools available to me to meet people during my time here. I've also continue to find ways to work around the limitations. What have you done?

how would you suggest we make a better balance?
-First, I think complaining on the blogs isn't the way. If you want to impact real change, you need to contact the site directly. Offer your objective suggestions on how they can improve the balance and entice women to join/stay. I do agree with one of the ways you mentioned, which is change their marketing and advertising strategies. However, I think we can agree they're not going to do that. Men are their largest draw, and women are the *bait* to draw men in...to pay. But...far too many men complained that women were getting too much "free" stuff that men didn't get. I think those complaints, gaming the system, and the loss of revenue led the site to stop giving women "free" stuff.

I think until you can change the minds of people in general, and how they view sex, the reality isn't likely to change.

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BiggLala 48F  
29057 posts
11/23/2020 9:32 am

Oh, and...just because I was curious, I looked at your top fan list. Particularly, how many bids you've received. According that list you've received 14,923 in fan points. At 17 points per chat, that's approximately 877 exchanges. Just a few days ago, you posted that you missed over 280 IM because you're not gold.

Surely, you've not missed any more IMs due to the amount of points you've received. Right? Plus, you require that men over 35 send you a minimum of 500 points to chat with you. Surely, that you've received more than enough points to chat. Because...it's about being able to chat for you, and nothing else. Right?

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