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Posted:Sep 26, 2016 5:20 pm
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2020 8:07 pm
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Friday... Vacation Day!!
Posted:Jul 3, 2020 4:24 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2020 10:59 pm

Boss #2 was gracious enough to let me take a much needed vacation day today.

It was fricking amazing...

The weather is absolutely gorgeous and Lake Michigan was amazing. The Spawn and I spent two hours just lounging in the water following the sand bars down to the point. It was a beautiful enough that I was able to let go of my anxiety over my Middle going to Detroit on Monday to do his ASVAB testing.

I'm thankful he won't be alone as he will be on a shuttle bus with other Pooley's. (Apparently that's what they're called when they're still in the candidate pool.) I'd be lying if I said it wasn't pulling at my heart strings watching him take these steps into adulthood.

It helps to see him so excited about it.

I'd thought he was staying at his Dad's last night when he came home around 7 o'clock excitedly telling me he had his first workout with the recruiter.

OMG! You scared me! I thought you were staying at dad's.

No, I was working out with the Pooley's. I did 39 pull ups. Surprised myself. Thought I was going to puke twice....

OMG! Why? Are you ok??

When you exercise your core, if you have food in there, it works itself back out.

OMG! I don't like this!

I've got this mom! (Huge smile on his face.) Your boy didn't puke.

So, yah, I'm struggling, but I'm accepting. I also had to accept the fact that he's also found himself a different job. We will be coworkers no more.....

I really liked having him work with me, too.
When in doubt....
Posted:Jul 2, 2020 1:43 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2020 11:19 pm

The answer is YES!

Please do!!

Absolutely use that front parking spot, and the one next it, resurface your shitty truck in the parking lot of our apartment building.

You fucking douche bag....

I got home from work yesterday and the neighbor from across the hall was sanding the bottom portion of his truck with a power sander right in front of the building, right in front of the apartment of the guy who works third shift.

I'm certain the guy was in there trying to sleep as all blinds were drawn and it looked pretty dark.

The ignorance of some people astounds me.
Gym Tales
Posted:Jul 1, 2020 6:26 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2020 3:45 pm

When my key card wouldn't open the door at the gym yesterday, I messaged the owner to see what was up.

Apparently, there's a lot up.

At the time, I'm certain she was under the belief that I had done something to the card to deactivate it and prevent myself from being able to enter or that it was merely operator error.

So, she told me she would review the video.


Like.... I'm going to lie about the key card not working? Because.... why would I lie about something stupid like that?

I have to say, I felt a little vindicated today when she messaged me back stating she had been on the phone with corporate all day because they are having issues with the door that she was unaware of. Apparently the door is randomly picking and choosing who it wants to let in.


At this point in time, my card is not working with the door.... Which means, I can only work out when the staff is there. The staff is only there during my own work hours.... So, no workouts for me until the door is fixed.

Just when I had it back! They take it all away....
And... Today's the day.
Posted:Jun 30, 2020 3:11 am
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2020 3:49 pm

I told my Middle I would meet him at the recruiter's office after work today.

My heart is sad and I'm feeling so much dread..... But I support his decisions and I want him to feel confident in them. I raised him to be independent, to be able to make wise choices, and now it is time for me to set my baby bird free.

Dammit this is hard!!

I want to be mad at the Spawn for clipping her toenails on the couch and LEAVlNG the clippings right where they flew....

But, I can't.

I swept the stupid things into my hand and cried a little at the realization that she, too, will be flying the coop in just a few more short years as well.

It just all feels so final, to me. Like, the end of an era...

My ENTIRE adult life has been wrapped up with being a mom of young . I was 19 when my ex-husband and I had my oldest ... I was 28 when we had my middle .... I was 33 when we had the Spawn.

I know I should be rejoicing in the fact that I've raised such wonderful, independent, free-thinking and smart , and I am. It was my goal all along to be a good example for them, to teach them to be responsible adults, and to not be afraid to make a decision or put themselves out there.

And, I've done just that.

Looks like I'll be doing a little extra gym time tonight.... I have a feeling there'll be a lot of feelings I'll need to release and let go...

Happy Tuesday
What do you get when you combine a one piece bathing suit and a port-a-potty?
Posted:Jun 28, 2020 6:57 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2020 3:52 pm

A recipe for disaster.

I couldn't have asked for better weather for my four day weekend....

After having spent most of the weekend in the water at various lakes and beaches, the various parts of my body are now varying shades of red and pink.

Freckles... Starting come out full force.

Summer is officially upon us.

The Spawn, a friend, and I all went Thumb Lake today. It was a perfect mixture of sun, shade, and water..... The water part coming to a screeching halt when I pulled my arm out of the lake and had a stick bug clinging to it.

But, I digress.

I was able to spend the rest of the afternoon lounging in the shade trees on the shoreline enjoying the day. It was comfortable, and lazy, and my stresses in the world were gone....

Until I had pee, anyway.

Not thinking anything of it, the Spawn and I trecked across the parking lot where the port-a-potties sit.

And, this is where it gets complicated.

Entering the thing, I realize.... I have completely disrobe in order pee.

Not only was I wearing a one piece bathing suit, at this point I was also wearing shorts and a t shirt as well.

It was the balancing act of the century!! I'm pretty sure I couldn't pull that off again if my life depended on it.

Somehow I managed not drop anything, not touch anything, and not urinate anything as I hovered over the toilet seat.

It was a true miracle.

God bless us, everyone!
When the patio is the new parking lot....
Posted:Jun 26, 2020 5:45 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2020 4:15 pm

My white trash downstairs neighbor has taken to parking her patchwork pick-up truck on the lawn in front of her apartment.

Are you fucking kidding me??

I can only hope the apartment manager comes to work today and actually sees what the hell this redneck is doing.

Because, it's not like she's in any way, shape, or form close to the parking lot. She can't just, back up, and say "Hey, my bad!"

She's on the back side of the building. There is NO parking lot access back here. You literally have to drive across the lawn from the road to get there, where she's parked, right next to the playground equipment.


The only thing missing is a tarp for a bed liner and a back end full of water.

Redneck Pool!
Day 2 into the 4 day weekend....
Posted:Jun 26, 2020 4:37 am
Last Updated:Jun 28, 2020 11:01 pm
I took a couple of vacation days this week.

It has been an absolute, fucking blessing!

You don't really realize how burned out you are until you step away from something, even if only for a brief moment.

Going to bed late.... waking up when you want to.

Enjoying your time just doing... nothing!

I woke up this morning and lay there, for a long moment, listening to the song playing in my mind. It was Guns N' Roses, and I still knew every word.

You Will Be Mine

There is always music in my dreams. Sometimes I recognize the song, like today, and I can always hear every word.... It doesn't take long, once I'm awake, for the words to disappear, though. But, if I lay there quietly.....

Sometimes I don't recognize it. Sometimes I wake up and think, have I heard that somewhere? Does it sound familiar? Once upon a time there was a musician blogger on here that I would read.... He had told me those songs I didn't recognize were songs I had created.

I had liked that.

The Spawn and I ended up going to Sturgeon Bay yesterday after I got my hair cut.

I was disappointed to see my tree had finally fallen into the water....

There was something about that tree that kind of gave me hope, they way it just clung there, standing strong.

It is what it is, I suppose.

We just continue to keep.... Moving on.

The Shitbox
Posted:Jun 24, 2020 5:28 pm
Last Updated:Jun 27, 2020 3:12 am

Went to the gym tonight even though my legs were a little sore....

Now I'm totally whipped.

Stuck to the treadmill tonight as I don't think my thighs could take another day on the elliptical... I'm surprised I made it through 40 minutes doing the treadmill on the fat burn setting.

It felt good though, when I was done.

It's a sense of accomplishment, in a way. Before you know it, it's in the cool down portion and you're thinking....

Damn! I did it!!

But, the true highlight to my evening happened on my way home from the gym.

I was nearing main street when a white jeep with the word 'Shitbox' plastered to the back window cut me off.

True story....

On the other side of the back window, it said 'If you hit my car while my baby is on board I will beat your ass until the cops show up'

Uh... yah.

I'd like to see that. The driver looked like a 90 lb crack head, in her left hand was a can of Monster and a lit cigarette.

I'm more concerned about this baby surviving its mother than I am concerned about it surviving a hit to the Shitbox.

are resilient, though, and I am proof. I came from a mother just like that.
Tonight at the gym....
Posted:Jun 23, 2020 4:23 pm
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2020 3:19 am

Yes folks, that is correct!

The gym is open at long last and I have returned. For the first time since March 17th, I walked on a treadmill and spent some time on the elliptical.

I'm pretty sure I want to die at this moment... But it was so worth it as I have missed my gym time SO much.

It's a good feeling! Not even worried about the Gym Stalker being there on my very first day back.


He tried contacting me on here not that long ago... I reminded him that things didn't work out the first time around, to which he apologized and said he'd made a lot of changes in his life.

Wondered if he could try it again.

It was definitely a case of same but different....

Instead of a wife, he now has a live in girlfriend. Instead of living two towns over, he now lives in my town. And instead of working for a manufacturing facility he is now self employed.

When I asked him what he was looking for, he had stated someone he could spend time with and have a conversation.

Forgive me if I'm wrong.... But..... Isn't that what the live in girlfriend is for??

My guess is, he is not being satisfied sexually by the girlfriend. He's really just looking for someone to hook up with from time to time and it really doesn't matter if she is smart or has the ability to carry on a conversation.

If he gets his way, the only words spoken aloud will be "oh God", "don't stop", and "harder".

So, yah, I passed on that opportunity. I think I'd like to find something a little more meaningful this time around.
Oh, coffee.... You elixer to the Gods.
Posted:Jun 23, 2020 3:44 am
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2020 5:21 pm

I'm experiencing a rough one this morning, folks.

I had a bad dream last night and woke up around midnight, staying up for most of the night.

I hate it when this happens....

Because, when I finally do fall asleep, I'm so fucking tired when it's time to get up again. I ended up hitting snooze 3 times and still lay in bed for another ten minutes with my eyes shut.


Now I have absolutely no motivation, whatsoever. I just want to crawl back into bed and sleep for the rest of this rainy day.

It's rainy, and muggy, and I'm tired, and the meaning of life is in question right now....

Wish me luck.
Thank God for small miracles.
Posted:Jun 22, 2020 3:50 pm
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2020 2:45 pm

My work BFF was able to get me an appointment to get my hair cut this Thursday.

I am beyond happy.

When I was complaining last week that I couldn't get in to my normal stylist until the 30th he had told me his friend/neighbor was a stylist and he would check with her to see if she had any openings.

As luck would have it, she did!

After Thursday, I'll be a Chewbacca no more...

Nose Hairs was acting a little weird today, he doesn't like the work BFF and he gets a little weird acting when I'm working with him.

It's kind of an odd dynamic as the work BFF was literally the first friend I made when I had started my current job and I think I might have been the first friend Nose Hairs made when he started working with us...

But, they don't like each other.

Too much machismo and ego going on.... They both have that instinct to be top dog.
A page from the Dickhead Move Diary....
Posted:Jun 21, 2020 3:07 pm
Last Updated:Jun 24, 2020 3:30 am

I wrote a post, not that long ago, about a guy who had sent a photo of himself taken in a public restroom.

If y'all remember, I had written him back, pointing the humor in bathroom selfies and pondered why guys felt it necessary that bathrooms are the ONLY place a selfie can be taken.

Nothing screams romance like a toilet and hand dryer!

He had NOT felt I was funny, had become insulted by my comment, and said some mean things back to me.

Fast forward to today.

Today I received a message from said Dickhead in my inbox. It was merely titled 'DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples' and had the trusty little paper clip indicating it contained some kind of attachment.

Now, what in the heck could this guy possibly want? Did he forget he had already been in contact with me and I had managed to bruise his ego?


It was merely a picture of what I can only assume was his penis inside another woman's vagina.

That's right folks!!

I am now devastated!! It could be MY vagina he's sending all over the internet and I BLEW my chance!! I may never recover from my loss.....

I'll be honest, I don't quite understand the point of the message. Was it to prove to me he could get some pussy with the tacky photo? Probably.... Do I really care, not really. The fact that he sent me that pic, in itself, proves to me, he wasn't worth my time or deserved body.

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