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Doing This Does Not Make You Shine Brighter  

sexyldy1000 60F  
8205 posts
2/23/2021 12:22 pm
Doing This Does Not Make You Shine Brighter



The world is full of so much anger and negativity. Yes, it has always been around but lately, it seems worse than ever.

Look around you and it is everywhere.

I have heard and seen comments on pretty much everything: the way people look, on the way people write, on their photography, on what food they eat, on what they wear. It’s an infinite list.

Calling someone fat won’t make you any thinner.
Calling someone dumb doesn’t make you any smarter.
Calling someone ugly doesn’t make you any more beautiful/handsome.
Ruining someone else’s day won’t make yours any better.

While it is difficult, remember that negative comments say more about the person making them, than the person they are intended for.

The fact is that you do not make yourself better hurting someone else’s feelings.

Use your words and actions t.o be kind and lift someone up. You and everyone else will be better off for it.




Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/23/2021 12:28 pm

Words hurt and can last forever. Why not be the instigator of a better tomorrow?

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


resant78 42M  
2931 posts
2/23/2021 1:04 pm

I agree, and I really like what you wrote: "While it is difficult, remember that negative comments say more about the person making them, than the person they are intended for." absolutely true.


Tmptrzz 58F
93746 posts
2/23/2021 1:08 pm

This is so very true, thank you so much for pointing this out, and I hope everyone reads this one.. I hope you enjoy a terrific Tuesday..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


Massass1963 57M
1003 posts
2/23/2021 1:57 pm

While society has increased awareness of "tolerance" things have actually gotten less tolerant. Children are taught in school that everyone is right, everyone is a winner. That isn't necessarily wrong, because everyone does have something worthwhile to contribute to society. But, kids are also not able to cope with differing opinions. In fact, those teaching tolerance are intolerant of those that don't agree with their new society point of view.
I don't approve of everyone's choice of lifestyles, for example. They may not approve of mine. Further, Hollywood, Bollywood, nor Washington politicians will tell me how to think. BUT, I don't ridicule or promote hate towards those I don't see eye to eye with.
Favoritism breeds hate. Today, all kinds of groups get special treatment. This group can protest, that group cannot. Even the BLM movement is given a free pass at vandalism. I venture there is greater disrespect between races than over the last decades. Hollywood teaches children and women that men are scumbags and incompetent fathers and husbands. Sure some are--most aren't. But this breeds contempt between the genders.
We are a mess as a society. Your post, though, is spot on!


Paulxx001 63M
18331 posts
2/23/2021 2:07 pm

True... ❗😊
You and I have shared so many thoughts on this topic! 🌹❤️


jajo696 66F  
3060 posts
2/23/2021 6:14 pm

Great post !.

I allowed a negative testimonial because i ve always felt that those kind of statements say more about the poster than it does abt me. Those that continually post comments in the negative vein...are suspect to me. Not good energy~

We never know whats going on behind the scenes of another. Its no skin off anyones back to be less critical and exhibit...kindness ~~


lonlyforlove2 78M
18185 posts
2/23/2021 6:51 pm

You have nice thoughts and it would be real nice if all could abide..
But you know this is not a perfect world . We try to be nice, thoughtful and kind, even to turn the other cheek.....BUT when it is needed slap the shit out of them , call them out.. I know, not nice but some times it gives you just a GOOD feeling..

"Words hurt and can last forever. Why not be the instigator of a better tomorrow?"
Yes they last forever. but sometimes they are needed to correct a yesterday... Sorry to have this opinion today , But I live in this real world with these other people. And some will never be nice, polite or truthful.. I do hope for you a good day , do be safe and careful.. I really was not raining on your parade, just some comments from down south.......

Be sure to look in at lonlyforlove2 . It may make you smile


SweetMysterie 48F
3481 posts
2/23/2021 8:37 pm

Very well said! My first reaction was to think "I hope those that need to hear this the most, will listen to such wisdom and recognize where they need to make changes in their own lives."

It didn't take long for me to do some self assessment and recognize that, although I am very careful not to speak negatively toward or about others, I do not always make the extra time or take the extra effort to encourage and support others and "be kinder than necessary."

Thank you for encouraging kindness today.



“As with the butterfly, adversity is necessary to build character in people.” ~ JB Wirthlin



lickeyzsplit 58M  
1042 posts
2/24/2021 5:47 am

Its the new way of thinking !! You are not allowed to have an opinion that is different from the Mob The Mob will now tell you what you like and want !! The cancel culture is here rewriting history of all our nations and people facts don't matter much anymore only what makes the Mob feel Justified in their actions matters !! I am so glad i lived in the time I did cause the society is crumbling fast !!


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:37 am

    Quoting resant78:
    I agree, and I really like what you wrote: "While it is difficult, remember that negative comments say more about the person making them, than the person they are intended for." absolutely true.
Thank you for stopping by and providing your endorsement.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:39 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    This is so very true, thank you so much for pointing this out, and I hope everyone reads this one.. I hope you enjoy a terrific Tuesday..
Seems it's far too easy to spew negativity instead of positivity. The change has to be collective.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:41 am

    Quoting lickeyzsplit:
    Its the new way of thinking !! You are not allowed to have an opinion that is different from the Mob The Mob will now tell you what you like and want !! The cancel culture is here rewriting history of all our nations and people facts don't matter much anymore only what makes the Mob feel Justified in their actions matters !! I am so glad i lived in the time I did cause the society is crumbling fast !!
You provide an interesting perspective that goes well beyond the intention of my post. Thanks for stopping by and sharing it.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:43 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    Great post !.

    I allowed a negative testimonial because i ve always felt that those kind of statements say more about the poster than it does abt me. Those that continually post comments in the negative vein...are suspect to me. Not good energy~

    We never know whats going on behind the scenes of another. Its no skin off anyones back to be less critical and exhibit...kindness ~~
I agree, we don't always know what motivates other people's comments and actions. Some find it easier to be miserable and want to bring everyone else down to their level. We have a choice in how we choose to respond. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:50 am

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    You have nice thoughts and it would be real nice if all could abide..
    But you know this is not a perfect world . We try to be nice, thoughtful and kind, even to turn the other cheek.....BUT when it is needed slap the shit out of them , call them out.. I know, not nice but some times it gives you just a GOOD feeling..

    "Words hurt and can last forever. Why not be the instigator of a better tomorrow?"
    Yes they last forever. but sometimes they are needed to correct a yesterday... Sorry to have this opinion today , But I live in this real world with these other people. And some will never be nice, polite or truthful.. I do hope for you a good day , do be safe and careful.. I really was not raining on your parade, just some comments from down south.......
This was not suggesting that we should be pushovers. Of course, there are situations when we must stand up and defend ourselves. This was more about needlessly putting down others in an effort to make oneself feel better. I am open to different perspectives on my posts and am glad you dropped by to share yours.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:55 am

    Quoting Massass1963:
    While society has increased awareness of "tolerance" things have actually gotten less tolerant. Children are taught in school that everyone is right, everyone is a winner. That isn't necessarily wrong, because everyone does have something worthwhile to contribute to society. But, kids are also not able to cope with differing opinions. In fact, those teaching tolerance are intolerant of those that don't agree with their new society point of view.
    I don't approve of everyone's choice of lifestyles, for example. They may not approve of mine. Further, Hollywood, Bollywood, nor Washington politicians will tell me how to think. BUT, I don't ridicule or promote hate towards those I don't see eye to eye with.
    Favoritism breeds hate. Today, all kinds of groups get special treatment. This group can protest, that group cannot. Even the BLM movement is given a free pass at vandalism. I venture there is greater disrespect between races than over the last decades. Hollywood teaches children and women that men are scumbags and incompetent fathers and husbands. Sure some are--most aren't. But this breeds contempt between the genders.
    We are a mess as a society. Your post, though, is spot on!
Kind of like everyone gets a participation trophy rather than a winner being declared. Of course, not everyone is required to share the same opinion. How boring would that be? Special treatment seems to be on a sliding scale. There are a lot of things wrong but we need to focus on the things that are right. Thanks for stopping by and providing your wide-ranging perspective.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:57 am

    Quoting SweetMysterie:
    Very well said! My first reaction was to think "I hope those that need to hear this the most, will listen to such wisdom and recognize where they need to make changes in their own lives."

    It didn't take long for me to do some self assessment and recognize that, although I am very careful not to speak negatively toward or about others, I do not always make the extra time or take the extra effort to encourage and support others and "be kinder than necessary."

    Thank you for encouraging kindness today.
Some may view my post as 'fluff' or infer I live wearing rose-coloured glasses. Nothing could be further from the truth. Thank you for dropping by. Hope to see you again.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 6:58 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    True... ❗😊
    You and I have shared so many thoughts on this topic! 🌹❤️
We certainly have. We also can disagree and still respect one another's perspective.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


Solfan55 66M  
489 posts
2/24/2021 7:51 am

I've always loved the quote "you can't catch any more wind in your sails by cutting holes in someone else's".

B


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/24/2021 8:44 am

    Quoting Solfan55:
    I've always loved the quote "you can't catch any more wind in your sails by cutting holes in someone else's".

    B
That perfectly aligns with the point of this post. Thank you 🙏 for sharing it.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


trixietrixster 53F  
2932 posts
2/25/2021 10:52 am

Hi pretty lady ... I'll never understand people that put others down, for whatever reason. If there is one thing the human race does well, it's causing conflict and the killing of it's own ...

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 60F  
7843 posts
2/25/2021 12:58 pm

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Hi pretty lady ... I'll never understand people that put others down, for whatever reason. If there is one thing the human race does well, it's causing conflict and the killing of it's own ...
It is difficult to understand and even harder to ignore. Sadly, your observation is accurate.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
Choosing A Relationship


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