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Pet Names or Terms of Endearment  

sexyldy1000 59F  
6320 posts
8/1/2020 1:00 pm
Pet Names or Terms of Endearment

There are certain 'pet names' that I just don't like:
'honey'
'darling '
'sweetie'
'love'
'doll'

I dislike them even more when some random person, includes them in an introductory email 'to' me, or in a comment on one of my blogs or on one of my pics. Seriously? You don’t know me and you are tossing them around so freely. No doubt, probably using them with everyone they contact. Do you really think it's going to make me feel 'special'?

Usually, ‘pet names’ are used as something special between people in a romantic relationship to create an ‘us’ feeling. I kind of cringe when I see others using them in their communications. Unless there is some kind of offline link between them, they are just co-existing on this make-believe island.

However, I will admit, there is one 'pet name' that 'gets to me' anytime it's used, especially when it is unexpected. I have no idea when or how it started but being called Sunshine just about makes me melt and leaves a huge smile on my face. It always makes me think of this great song:

Ain't No Sunshine
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
It's not warm when she's away
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And she's always gone too long
Anytime she goes away

Wonder this time where she's gone
Wonder if she's gone to stay
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And this house just ain't no home
Anytime she goes away

And I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know, I know, I know, I know
I know, I know
Hey, I oughta leave young thing alone
But ain't no sunshine when she's gone

Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
Only darkness every day
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And this house just ain't no home
Anytime she goes away
Anytime she goes away
Anytime she goes away
Anytime she goes away

Songwriters: Bill Withers
© Universal Music Publishing Group


I don't want nor expect to be suddenly flooded with messages calling me 'Sunshine'. Those that matter, understand the impact it has on me and when 'to' use it.



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Tmptrzz 57F
81870 posts
8/1/2020 1:07 pm

I am so sorry my friend I had no idea you didn't like terms of endearment words. I call everyone hun, or darlin. So I am sorry if it offended you in any way. And I am with you about being called something like that when you don't know the person.

I love this song, my hubby sings it at Karaoke, and he's a great singer, always makes me smile too. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/1/2020 1:14 pm

So my question to you is: other than your name, what do you like to be called or enjoy calling someone else?

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Paulxx001 63M
16633 posts
8/1/2020 1:21 pm

hmmm... reeeelee.... 😊 🌴🍷🍷❗😎


mc_justmc 60M
6291 posts
8/1/2020 2:52 pm

I don't have any pet names, but I remember being on the extension and listening to an insurance lady patronizing my ex and calling her "hun" when I cut her off and chewed her out and called HER "hun" at every opportunity.


pagancountrygirl 62F
5233 posts
8/1/2020 2:53 pm

I'm not a fan of the random pet names or terms of endearment, either.
One of the people I work with recently called me "sunshine". I laughed and told her "Yup. That's me. Miss Sunshine....with a side of lightning bolt to zap someone's ass". She was laughing and nodding.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/1/2020 2:54 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I am so sorry my friend I had no idea you didn't like terms of endearment words. I call everyone hun, or darlin. So I am sorry if it offended you in any way. And I am with you about being called something like that when you don't know the person.

    I love this song, my hubby sings it at Karaoke, and he's a great singer, always makes me smile too. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..
Tmptrzz, I wasn't referring to anything you have used. No offense was taken, so please don't change what you use. And I agree, Ain't No Sunshine is a great song for karaoke

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wingnuts56 64M/63F  
27 posts
8/1/2020 3:21 pm

lil mama is my pet name that i call my wife


redrockrascal 61M
21598 posts
8/1/2020 4:02 pm

As long as a pet name someone gives me is sincere I good with it.

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Randee_69 53M
30 posts
8/1/2020 4:03 pm

I hope you have someone special who can call you that.


mufdiver69er2 59M  
1335 posts
8/1/2020 6:56 pm

reminds me of that billy jack movie with tom laughlin where the badguy rubs flour on the lil girls face and billy says..this girl so special to us that we call her our ray of sunshine and when i see her like this it just makes me wanna...then he whoops ass...know the movie?

woop woop


nanayawkyere6423 35F
1 post
8/1/2020 7:27 pm

I am single here with no kids and am here looking to get to know a caring loyal and honest man to get to know each other and see how life hold for us And you can text me on two zero nine two one five five three four three .. I hope to hear from you soon


clittywhisperer1 56M
1364 posts
8/1/2020 7:58 pm

my new old gf calls me J .A. always has dont know why but initials it is her name is short so i called her lise at times now. We had a funny exchange and i said you got it going on like stacys mom , she said just call me stacy . so now I do or stace new pet name .


umaykissmesoftly 63F
284 posts
8/1/2020 8:22 pm

I hate being called "baby", it's so generic. But, if someone were to call me "my love" and actually mean it.....


proteus_2a 54M
7784 posts
8/1/2020 10:35 pm

Absolutely right on the subject of terms of endearment having been overused and burned in the process, my lady
This definitely leaves some special terms, only a significant other can , and often uses in mutual affection

Maybe it's the palpable lack of it, that deteterriorates them more...

Cheers ...
( how about "pumpkin" ? )

P


easyrider4008 63M
1408 posts
8/2/2020 1:02 am

That song is I believe the most covered song of all time. I think you are right terms of endearment are for use in a special relationship.


classicalrebel4 64M  
1464 posts
8/2/2020 4:30 am

What's bad about the pet names that you mentioned is that they get used automatically without really thinking about whether they are appropriate. If someone is going to call you a pet name, then they should put some thought into it so it will be meaningful. And besides, those pet names have some bad baggage attached to them.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:41 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    hmmm... reeeelee.... 😊 🌴🍷🍷❗😎
Yes....really. Noticed you didn't answer the question though.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:42 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I don't have any pet names, but I remember being on the extension and listening to an insurance lady patronizing my ex and calling her "hun" when I cut her off and chewed her out and called HER "hun" at every opportunity.
That is funny . It can occur in all kinds of situations and makes me uncomfortable.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:43 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    I'm not a fan of the random pet names or terms of endearment, either.
    One of the people I work with recently called me "sunshine". I laughed and told her "Yup. That's me. Miss Sunshine....with a side of lightning bolt to zap someone's ass". She was laughing and nodding.
That's priceless! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your story

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:45 am

    Quoting wingnuts56:
    lil mama is my pet name that i call my wife
Bet there is a story behind that! Thanks for stopping by. Drop by again.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:46 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    As long as a pet name someone gives me is sincere I good with it.
OK - that sounds like a safe approach. There aren't any that really annoy you?

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:47 am

    Quoting Randee_69:
    I hope you have someone special who can call you that.
Some people know about the impact it has on me. The best is when it's said the first time and they used it without knowing

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:49 am

    Quoting mufdiver69er2:
    reminds me of that billy jack movie with tom laughlin where the badguy rubs flour on the lil girls face and billy says..this girl so special to us that we call her our ray of sunshine and when i see her like this it just makes me wanna...then he whoops ass...know the movie?
Yes I remember the movie but not that scene! Thanks for dropping by and providing the reminder

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:50 am

    Quoting clittywhisperer1:
    my new old gf calls me J .A. always has dont know why but initials it is her name is short so i called her lise at times now. We had a funny exchange and i said you got it going on like stacys mom , she said just call me stacy . so now I do or stace new pet name .
Sounds like you have settled on 'pet names' you are both comfortable with. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your story.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:52 am

    Quoting umaykissmesoftly:
    I hate being called "baby", it's so generic. But, if someone were to call me "my love" and actually mean it.....
Oh I understand how you feel about 'baby'. I feel the same way about 'babe'. I agree, so much depends on the sincerity in which it is delivered. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your viewpoint.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:54 am

    Quoting proteus_2a:
    Absolutely right on the subject of terms of endearment having been overused and burned in the process, my lady
    This definitely leaves some special terms, only a significant other can , and often uses in mutual affection

    Maybe it's the palpable lack of it, that deteterriorates them more...

    Cheers ...
    ( how about "pumpkin" ? )

    P
See, you totally understand! 'My lady' is your special way of addressing me (and perhaps others, but doesn't matter). OMG...no thanks on 'pumpkin'. Nice to see you drop by.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:58 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    That song is I believe the most covered song of all time. I think you are right terms of endearment are for use in a special relationship.
It might seem like it is. However, based on a quick Google search, I found 'Yesterday" written by Paul McCartney, is the most widely recorded song of all-time. To date, at least 4,000 different versions of it exist. I agree, 'terms of endearment' are supposed to be meaningful

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/2/2020 4:59 am

    Quoting classicalrebel4:
    What's bad about the pet names that you mentioned is that they get used automatically without really thinking about whether they are appropriate. If someone is going to call you a pet name, then they should put some thought into it so it will be meaningful. And besides, those pet names have some bad baggage attached to them.
I agree, it's the 'automatic' usage that demeans their usage. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.

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pocogato12 68F  
33757 posts
8/3/2020 4:30 am

Pet names need to be between me and the person I really care about. I cant begin to count the "folks" on here, female and male alike, who send me notes calling me " hun" which I detest and "dear" is a close second

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pocogato12 68F  
33757 posts
8/3/2020 4:54 am

Here is a perfect example of smeone who will get deleted!!

JHOPJR8888 32M umumumoops
Do you like younger guys like myself dear

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/3/2020 5:19 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Pet names need to be between me and the person I really care about. I cant begin to count the "folks" on here, female and male alike, who send me notes calling me " hun" which I detest and "dear" is a close second
I don’t know if it’s a generational thing or the part of the liberties people feel they can take using ‘social media’. Regardless, seems we both agree, ‘pet names’ should be for those in an actual relationship ( however it is defined).

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trixietrixster 52F  
1588 posts
8/3/2020 4:53 pm

Well, thinking I could guilty of this ... "pretty lady", I started calling you. My apologies is I offended you!! I use all that you listed to those I know. Never would I speak to a stranger like that. Again, if I make you feel uncomfy in any way, I truly do apologize!!

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/3/2020 6:42 pm

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Well, thinking I could guilty of this ... "pretty lady", I started calling you. My apologies is I offended you!! I use all that you listed to those I know. Never would I speak to a stranger like that. Again, if I make you feel uncomfy in any way, I truly do apologize!!
No, I wasn't referring to anything you have said. 'Pretty lady' is sweet and kind. I was referring more to the crude, presumptuous messages and comments that men will make. Please be assured, if I was offended by anything you have said, I would message you privately and let you know.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/3/2020 6:43 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Here is a perfect example of smeone who will get deleted!!

    JHOPJR8888 32M umumumoops
    Do you like younger guys like myself dear
Everyone has to find what is comfortable for them dealing with those kinds of messages.

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missthee 54F  
4237 posts
8/5/2020 1:00 pm

Same here. Princess and queen are the most cringeworthy for me.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6348 posts
8/5/2020 9:27 pm

    Quoting missthee:
    Same here. Princess and queen are the most cringeworthy for me.
Oh yes...can't forget those! Thanks for stopping by and supporting my blog .

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