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Being polite doesn't always work 6/14/2020
We try to keep our "thanks but no thanks" message
polite and straight forward. But there are some people
who persist, thinking if they change the language or tone
of an I.M or message from previously sent one's that
will suddenly make us change our mind. It's annoying
and irritating! We're not rude people in general and
don't wanna be, but when pushed you get the ...
0 Comments, 5 Views,
0 Votes
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"No thanks" from a sub. 6/4/2020
Being a sub there are people that think that means they can
just start messaging with demands like " fuck your
ass with a wine bottle now show me pics now!!"
and then when I respectfully say no thanks, they try to back
track or worse double down the demands. Problem with back
tracking is that they've already shown that they don't
respect the relationship and will abuse it. ...
0 Comments, 1 Views,
0 Votes
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adding a new article .. 5/30/2020
here i am, adding a new article ... a sad day 
0 Comments, 5 Views,
1 Votes
,1.10 Score
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Just be honest 4/14/2020
I am not sure why it is so hard for people to just be honest
and say NO THANKS if they are not interested.
4 Comments, 21 Views,
3 Votes
,4.41 Score
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No Thanks 2/17/2020
Telling someone no thanks is being nice. If said people
don't get the point, then it's on them what comes
next.
1 Comments, 24 Views,
7 Votes
,5.08 Score
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Nope 1/23/2020
No points ha
2 Comments, 12 Views,
5 Votes
,2.82 Score
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Sometimes its hard 1/17/2020
No its not, just say im not into it
0 Comments, 9 Views,
4 Votes
,5.19 Score
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Honestly 1/13/2020
Just be honest and truthful about everything and it will
go alot easier
1 Comments, 12 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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When to Say No 1/12/2020
How many of you couples out there keep getting messages
from the same lonely guy, day in and day out? You have told
this person that you are not interested in them and they
just insisting to message you. So how do you get them to stop?
3 Comments, 41 Views,
10 Votes
,3.39 Score
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Younger women 1/10/2020
Is it really that hard to respond to instant messages and
say sorry not interested in chatting or do women
just like the attention?
5 Comments, 55 Views,
13 Votes
,3.65 Score
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Why 1/8/2020
Why is it so hard for people say NO THANK OR NOT interested.
Why can't they just respond back with that simple reply.
7 Comments, 34 Views,
10 Votes
,3.19 Score
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21 Ways to “Give Good No" 1/8/2020
We are coming to that time of the year that is both blessed
and cursed with zillions of invitations. Here are some
that are in my email right now: Can you meet me for coffee
to help me with my book proposal? Will you bring a snack to
the 8th grade party on December 19th? Are you coming to our
housewarming party? Can you help with my ’s college
applications? Do you want to take the to see ...
1 Comments, 13 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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No thanks 1/6/2020
Another No Thanks for just getting some points.
1 Comments, 13 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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Take a hint 12/30/2019
Why can't people take a hint? We answer anyone who messages
us, but will not be hopping into bed with just anyone. If
we tell you that you just aren't what we are looking
for at this time, move on. We don't like to be rude or
hurtful, so we don't get into the specifics of why it
isn't going to happen. Constant messages, dic pics,
friend requests and comments on all of our ...
7 Comments, 97 Views,
20 Votes
,4.78 Score
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Penis in your black mouth 12/24/2019
Niggersgddsfjgccjcxzzxxxxh643edgkogfb Bcccdsatiu85rsfhkoyde2
0 Comments, 18 Views,
12 Votes
,0.68 Score
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No thanks 12/19/2019
No thanks for for points
1 Comments, 25 Views,
20 Votes
,1.85 Score
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Worst "no" 12/18/2019
What would be the worst eay someone could say no?
2 Comments, 42 Views,
26 Votes
,2.70 Score
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Filtered pics 12/17/2019
I love flirting finding that little cute spark exchange
pics.your really turn on into person your chatting with
then final comes day your going to meet up then.. then you
meet up find person you was chatting with looks nothing
like person in pic.. Then you’re grossed out. Then you’re
feeling deceived and pissed pissed.. please people stop trying to pretend be ten win your really
2 That really ...
3 Comments, 41 Views,
19 Votes
,2.86 Score
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I find hard to say no as a man... 12/10/2019
I find that if we say no as a male sometimes girls can get very
mad like if it direspectful. But its that at all, sometimes
we are just over tired from a bad day at work and we are exhausted...
6 Comments, 55 Views,
23 Votes
,3.36 Score
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its not hard to do 12/10/2019
saying No thanks really takes very little time and can leave
the other person feeling good for just having made contact.
this site is all about feeling good , right? In this, the
season of giving, lets take that extra 2 seconds and me the
person your rejecting at least feel good about themselves
0 Comments, 21 Views,
18 Votes
,2.85 Score
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So you think you can fuck me better? 12/6/2019
Just because you comment on my video that you can fuck me
better dont mean you ever will because I have a conection
with my man and thats something you will never have with
me so that kind of comment want get you anything but blocked
4 Comments, 44 Views,
23 Votes
,2.19 Score
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Married Cheating Men And Woman 12/6/2019
Well mostly men in this case <br><br>
I dont care if you want to cheat on your spouse for what ever
reason <br><br>
Thats on you and the karma that comes with it <br><br>
But the 1st thing we do when talking with someone on here
is let them know thats a deal breaker and will not meet cheating
men and woman <br><br>
But you must really be a special ...
3 Comments, 46 Views,
20 Votes
,2.36 Score
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How many times do you have to say no thanks! 12/6/2019
Sorry I am not into BBC <br><br>
And I am not into 18 year old boys and dont care how big your
dick is <br><br>
But how many times must I say no thanks before I just get tired
and block you? <br><br>
Well it was about 10 this time
2 Comments, 31 Views,
14 Votes
,2.02 Score
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bad blow jobs 11/25/2019
Back when we were all young there were always a couple girls
who gave terrible blow jobs. You had just let them give
you a hand job and move straight sex. Might even have
so no the blow job if she was offering.
4 Comments, 24 Views,
10 Votes
,3.78 Score
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Silence is deafening 11/15/2019
I know it’s not always possible to respond to every message
if you’re not interested. I get it. And I will be respectful,
and never be abusive. But even a quick little , “no thank
you” really helps out sometimes. Does anyone agree?
8 Comments, 62 Views,
17 Votes
,4.82 Score
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Common courtesy? 11/15/2019
Is it me or have the younger generation aka 24 and younger
not been taught common courtesy? When you send a message
on IM here to the younger generation, it seems like half
of them never respond. Ladies... even if you're not
interested in chatting, it's called common courtesy
to at least respond back either way. Not interested? Totally
fine, but could you take 30 seconds to respond back ...
8 Comments, 56 Views,
15 Votes
,1.91 Score
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Why? 11/14/2019
Why is so hard for single men on here to not read what people
post or say
2 Comments, 38 Views,
10 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Why 11/11/2019
Why when you get flirt and viewed do they then not respond
on massaging
2 Comments, 22 Views,
10 Votes
,1.99 Score
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Men, how would you prefer to hear I enjoyed meeting you but don't feel sparks? 11/6/2019
I'm twice widowed and had a great sex life with both
husbands. My first husband and I had a swinger lifestyle
for some years before the novelty wore off as we found that
many people are simply not very sensual. We did find some
couples and single FWBs that we had long sensual relationships
with. I've had enough varied experience know what
I need connect with a man. And there aren't ...
4 Comments, 68 Views,
18 Votes
,2.85 Score
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Is it really that difficult..... 11/3/2019
If you're not interested, just say it. <br><br>
Why flirt, messages or emails to then be ignored. <br><br>
I get its a competitive environment or is it the limitations
of the site now, ie is king?
0 Comments, 13 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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PSA: Consent. 10/31/2019
Always ask for consent before sex and specifically with
a stranger you may meet on a night out. That is all to this
post but its just common sense really.
0 Comments, 18 Views,
14 Votes
,3.62 Score
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Difference 10/25/2019
A woman says no thanks to a guy and he can take it and move along.
But a guy meets a woman has sex on NS basis and she can’t
take no to anything more.
2 Comments, 26 Views,
13 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Asked about whether the best defender Marcelo the room 10/24/2019
I’ll host another bonfire tomorrow starting around
7 pm at the alsterwiese schwanenwik. Everyone is welcome
to come and to bring stuff to roast 🤙🏼 I have roasting sticks.
0 Comments, 16 Views,
10 Votes
,2.39 Score
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No means no 10/23/2019
come on men, is it really that hard? <br><br>
I still have women almost shocked that I can take rejection
in stride. <br><br>
Women, what do you do with men who are too persistent?
0 Comments, 20 Views,
10 Votes
,1.39 Score
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Are giving what you're asking for or are you getting back what you deserve? 10/17/2019
Let's just cut through the bullshit for those solo
males that this doesn't apply to don't get offended
actually be offended but you need to be offended the behaviors
from other solo males that have you feeling the fallout.
If you're being disrespectful, crude, overbearing,
demanding and im going to say DISRESPECTFUL 2 times and
are expecting a invitation to come fuck in return ...
4 Comments, 61 Views,
19 Votes
,2.99 Score
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It is time to bring back proper manners even to a sex siite. 10/13/2019
I have been surfing all levels of this site for 20 years now
and it has become clear over the years that manners have
declined and in some instances disappeared completely.
Gone are the days where people would in the rooms
and not have fight and bicker. Gone are the days where
people could an IM or message and people would politely
respond "No thanks" if they weren't ...
2 Comments, 23 Views,
10 Votes
,2.79 Score
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How do you say no nicely 10/11/2019
So you meet somebody in the bar and they arent how they looked
in their photos or there just isnt a connection. How do you
say no thanks without offending
0 Comments, 21 Views,
10 Votes
,1.59 Score
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Being Mean 10/8/2019
How mean have you gotten with someone that won't just
leave you alone, on here or not on here?
0 Comments, 8 Views,
6 Votes
,2.80 Score
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Not looking for sausage fest 10/3/2019
There must be 3to1 guys to girls on here guys posing as couple
that’s gay. Hoping to pose as couple really be looking
for guy on guy hook up..why don’t you change your profile
to layer looking for m4m hook up stop wasting peoples time
2 Comments, 15 Views,
9 Votes
,3.43 Score
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No Thanks 10/2/2019
So when you say no thanks in the most polite unrude way etc.
98% of the time they question it.. or they insist on how good
it wiil be and how good they are. Everyone has preferences . If you're not what they
want or prefer then let it be .
1 Comments, 7 Views,
3 Votes
,1.47 Score
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Being polite to single males? 9/24/2019
Which is better...telling a single male "No thanks"
or just ignoring him?
2 Comments, 37 Views,
11 Votes
,1.11 Score
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also happens to men 9/22/2019
i was with a married woman, gorgeous, great figure and smile.
she made me feel so comfortable i let her control and dom
me. <br><br>
we were probably 1 hour into it and she decides to tie me up
and blindfold me. <br><br>
i wasnt sure but she convinced me <br><br>
she was erotically touching and licking my body, especially
my nipples then she started rimming me. ...
3 Comments, 34 Views,
14 Votes
,1.22 Score
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SAID NO TO BECOMING A PROFESSIONAL PORN STAR 9/19/2019
I WAS ASKED BY THE SCORE GROUP IN MIAMI (A PROFESSIONAL PORN
COMPANY) TO BE IN TWO DAYS O PORN SHOOTING: 1ST DAY SOLO AND
BOYY/GIRL, AND THE 2ND DAY SOLO AGAIN AND B/G ANAL FOR A TWO
DAY TOTAL OF $2650.00. THEY WERE GOING TO PAY FOR MY AIRFARE,
ONE BAG, AND A HOTEL IN DOWNTOWN MIAMI $300 PER NIGHT. MY
STAGE NAME WAS ARIANA LYN. I WAS PSYCHED AND WENT OUT ON A
SHOPPING SPREE FOR ALL THE CLOTHES ...
4 Comments, 84 Views,
25 Votes
,4.35 Score
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Free bonus 9/18/2019
I remember DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples use to give u credits or 40 day gold or something
0 Comments, 19 Views,
12 Votes
,2.09 Score
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Screwed 9/18/2019
That's what DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples does to u
2 Comments, 18 Views,
10 Votes
,1.99 Score
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Cut loose 9/15/2019
Usually its best to just let it go and accept the fact that
it's not working. Try not to continue down a path that
you know won't work
0 Comments, 10 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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trust 9/14/2019
when someone close to u wants to get involved, a friends
wife, i think ts the ultimate betrayal, u lose ur friendship
and ur friend , so that time came for me , i said no thanks,
but i never saw his wife in the same way again ever i had to
turn down temptation , as hard as it was, and at times almost
impossible , due to the fact it was put on a plate for u , so
i turned it down flat. its much ...
1 Comments, 24 Views,
14 Votes
,1.86 Score
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Hey guys, chill please 9/12/2019
You log on to DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples and get all excited. All these pics with
flirty usernames. So many hot women and couples. You get
on IM and start browsing, messaging women, sending flirts,
requesting friends. Ready to have fun. And then... nothing.
<br><br>
Babe, I want to let you know that it has nothing to do with
you. I mean, don't take it personally. Women on DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples
are outnumbered 20:1. We ...
5 Comments, 86 Views,
29 Votes
,3.64 Score
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points 9/12/2019
need more
0 Comments, 14 Views,
10 Votes
,1.19 Score
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Thanks but not interested 9/10/2019
Such a simple response to a polite hello. Very refreshing when someone responds. Perhaps manners don’t apply here. Or, is it the points system or the poor programming that
causes folks to appear pushy or frigid? Either way. One lady actually replied as such to indicate
that she was not interested. That was refreshing.
4 Comments, 25 Views,
13 Votes
,1.80 Score
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Is it rude? 9/10/2019
I've meet a few people and turned all but 2 down in person.
They obviously weren't the type of person they said
they were in their profile. Many of them take offense, why?
If you want to a chicken and someone brought a duck you
wouldn't accept it either. Come on now, right?
2 Comments, 23 Views,
11 Votes
,3.54 Score
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No Thanks 9/9/2019
Why is it so hard for some people to just say no thanks? It
would make things so much easier.
2 Comments, 13 Views,
8 Votes
,0.93 Score
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Reading Messages = Viewing Profile??? 9/5/2019
I'm running into so many problems with members I'm
not interested in, because they send me messages and I read
them, which gives them the notification that I "viewed
their profile" when I literally don't know who
the fuck they are.... Then some people call me on it saying
shit like "what, you shy?" "I see you're
looking at my profile, why won't you say ...
5 Comments, 71 Views,
14 Votes
,3.46 Score
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Good luck loll 9/3/2019
At all the men want do something on me
1 Comments, 13 Views,
5 Votes
,1.19 Score
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Never say no to 9/3/2019
more points
1 Comments, 17 Views,
8 Votes
,2.78 Score
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Side Piece’s Side Action on the Side 9/2/2019
So a few years ago I met a girl from this site. We hit it off,
and decided to meet. She wanted me to meet her at her apartment
that she was renting to be closer to her work. I agreed. <br><br>
When I got there, I was immediately creeped out. There was
no furniture, and the kitchen was empty. There were a few
boxes around and a bed. We talked a little bit, and then she
started smoking ...
3 Comments, 25 Views,
10 Votes
,2.79 Score
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saying no 9/1/2019
Besides compliments, another thing the person you’re
saying no to might appreciate is knowing why. Sometimes
it’s best to be candid about your constraints. <br><br>
Example: I can’t handle the meeting for you this afternoon—I’m
busy onboarding a new hire and have a deadline I need to hit.
<br><br>
Example: This is a sweet pitch, but our doesn’t
have a budget ...
1 Comments, 19 Views,
10 Votes
,1.79 Score
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Vegan Santa 8/29/2019
There is a guy on here that keeps creeping on me. He looks
like Vegan Santa Claus. He can't take a hint. I don't
want to message him because he is not worth the points.
1 Comments, 13 Views,
7 Votes
,3.04 Score
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Points 8/18/2019
I think the point system needs fixing. If you're wanting
to chat with someone and they just left the line or don't
reply you're screwed out of points
5 Comments, 64 Views,
24 Votes
,5.86 Score
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Older Guy Uh No 8/7/2019
I had a conversation with a guy online a few months back.
He showed me pictures of his perfect ripped body. Very sexy
needless to say. Told me he had glowing white teeth and woman
have complimented him on his neat overall appearance.
This conversation went on for at least 2 months before I
finally decided to meet him. He lived about 3 hours away
so I agreed to get a motel room and wait for him. I ...
6 Comments, 73 Views,
14 Votes
,2.82 Score
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not trying to be rude 8/7/2019
I am getting a lot of message request from people who i'm
not interested in. I just say thank you but i'm not interested
and people get offended and message back rude things. Does
anyone else have this problem? If so, what do you do?
5 Comments, 39 Views,
18 Votes
,3.53 Score
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help me please 8/3/2019
How does say no without sounding rude?
6 Comments, 85 Views,
26 Votes
,3.89 Score
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What is wrong With People 7/29/2019
Is is so hard to just say no thank you I am not interested.
I had invested some time and effort into communicating
with someone. My husband said he might be interested in
a couples sort of situation. So I shared that. After
multiple communications and trying to arrange a time to
meet. I extended multiple invitations including drinks with our spouses and then to a swing party.
I had assumed he ...
4 Comments, 82 Views,
29 Votes
,4.04 Score
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An Off Meeting 7/26/2019
I once met a woman in an off chance place by accident. She
and I got to talking and she gave me her number and address
and told me to come over the next day. So I went over to her
house. What I noticed was a big facial mole on her upper cheek.
We were talking and she kissed me, which was kind of hot until
I opened my eyes. Oh my, staring me in the face was a mole mountain.
I got that imagine in ...
0 Comments, 32 Views,
17 Votes
,1.85 Score
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how many times do you have to say no thanks to some one because you feel they are not sexy enough 7/25/2019
how many times do you say no to some one just because you think
they would be bad in bed? let me know
0 Comments, 18 Views,
10 Votes
,1.79 Score
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Childish insults 7/22/2019
I am constantly amazed as what passes for mature behavior
on this site. Recently a man sent a message, I politely said no thank you
and (while not necessary )I explained why. His response
was write an insult. For the men complain that women don't respond
your emails or instant messages this is part of the reason.
Just because we are also using this site does not mean we don't want ...
8 Comments, 91 Views,
28 Votes
,4.88 Score
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How hard is it to say No Thanks 6/26/2019
It’s not that hard. It’s 2 little words. I get that some
get rude and condescending when they are rejected but that
proves that your decision was right. Block their ass. True
colours come out sooner or later.
3 Comments, 48 Views,
27 Votes
,3.45 Score
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Saying no 6/21/2019
Just what the words mean..no thanks..if or when you meet
someone that you have talked with online and do so in public
someplace you feel safe. Usually within minutes you know
how that will end up and if it is not what you wanted say...no
thanks and leave. Leave and do not back , use your gut
feeling and that will keep you safe.
2 Comments, 25 Views,
14 Votes
,1.06 Score
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No means no 6/19/2019
It's not easy say "No Thanks", especially
when the other person is interested and you aren't.
I think some subtle attempts work best, with a final heart
heart often the way.
2 Comments, 38 Views,
12 Votes
,0.86 Score
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no thanks 6/12/2019
As I have seen online services everyone seems right until
you ask questions. Then you get conflicting statements about them, and their
answers dont match their photo. Then is the time even if
you setup a meeting to respond..no thanks..
0 Comments, 25 Views,
17 Votes
,1.71 Score
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Wasting points 6/10/2019
Why do we even have points if thet never txt u bak its so stupid
i dnt even know why i keep wasting points for.
1 Comments, 23 Views,
15 Votes
,3.44 Score
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Expectations vs No Expectations 5/19/2019
There is maybe a perception that all messages deserve a
response. However, as a woman who chooses to interact in
an adult forum online, I would suggest maybe less emphasis
is placed on the recipient responding and perhaps the senders
have less expectations. I would take the attitude, if a message of mine is not responded
to they are not interested or simply too busy. As I too have
messaged ...
4 Comments, 181 Views,
43 Votes
,3.46 Score
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I miss her 5/19/2019
Her husband dosnt let her anymore but weve become friends
do u think she will suck and fuck me again?
1 Comments, 31 Views,
20 Votes
,1.59 Score
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Why the constant lack of: "No Thanks" 5/16/2019
I learned that when you dont ask a specific question for
someone to reply to, you limit the odds of receiving a reply.
Not even a no thanks is given very often which I dont get.
I understand what the site if for, but why the lack of common
kindness?! I'm thinking it's due to the lack of,
they will never know me, so why waste the time. I say, kindness
is a heart condition. ...
2 Comments, 48 Views,
29 Votes
,2.14 Score
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why is it so hard for girls to just say no? 5/9/2019
I understand the possible stigma's or asshole-ish
responses might get from jerks who think they are owed sex
because (who knows why.) But Is it really hard, especially
in a virtual setting, or in a , to just say "sorry,
I changed my mind, " or flat out, "no."
asking because I feel as though some women who did
not tell me they had changed their minds and just decided
to ...
3 Comments, 46 Views,
25 Votes
,0.59 Score
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Should saying "No Thanks" or "Not interested" be a common courtesy!? 5/2/2019
I feel if someone takes the time to acknowledge you,
you should be taking the time to acknowledge them back even
if your not interested! Do others feel it is rude to not respond
to a message sent to you? Or am I alone on this one?
7 Comments, 49 Views,
17 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Pointers 5/1/2019
Just here for them points
0 Comments, 18 Views,
13 Votes
,2.47 Score
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Do you really accept a "no, thank you"? 4/15/2019
I see a few people asking why can't women just say "no,
thank you" instead of not replying? Well, here's
this, not all people take gracefully. Some decide
to berate you or to continually contact you after you've
declined. I've had to say no to the same individuals
multiple times until I've had to block them. Is
okay? If someone doesn't respond to me, I take ...
8 Comments, 112 Views,
39 Votes
,2.99 Score
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Not 'no thanks' but 'can't now' .... 4/10/2019
I normally have to plan my playtimes, for very specific
days and hours. Frequently I get into conversations with
guys who get very rude when I can't drop things and '
now' to take care of their wants. not turning
them down, just letting them know I have time constraints,
like most folks have. I get every response from the usual
'you're missing a good thing' to the ...
1 Comments, 35 Views,
19 Votes
,1.41 Score
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Wondering Mind 4/7/2019
My mind wonders. Could I be Bi-sexual.I like a like looking
dicks and sometimes get excited. I throb when I watch.
1 Comments, 41 Views,
17 Votes
,1.43 Score
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Saying no thanks, because , as imagined , couples are scarce.. Hurry up and get a gold account 4/7/2019
Nothing ever changes. Are there no real couples , anywhere?
0 Comments, 19 Views,
9 Votes
,1.07 Score
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2019 Greetings 4/2/2019
ARE YOU RUDE NICE OR JUST GHOST A PERSON WHEN YOU TELL THEM
NO THANKS?
1 Comments, 15 Views,
7 Votes
,1.26 Score
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Why 3/29/2019
Why don't more women just say "no thanks"?
It can be frustrating to figure if a woman wants to meetup
or not. Not replying in I get for standard users, but
gold members don't bother. Makes me want to delete
this
5 Comments, 28 Views,
7 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Why i came here 3/16/2019
I came to this site after i lost my wife to cancer. I was a lost
man who was spoiled and loved at same time. I am here to learn
what women of today want and what i can bring from the past
to today and still enjoy . But to my shock after 4 years of
great marrage that some women not all women on here are only
after Itune cards or other things to have me buy for them.
But im not here to buy ...
3 Comments, 31 Views,
12 Votes
,1.74 Score
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please be polite 3/9/2019
what is it girls can;t reply and just say not interested
thanks
5 Comments, 30 Views,
10 Votes
,2.19 Score
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Scammer, fakes and frauds 3/8/2019
What is going here shaking my head? So many boys, scammer
profiles and they're so aggressive like wtf!
3 Comments, 24 Views,
9 Votes
,1.93 Score
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Not wanting to meet 2/19/2019
I have always said honesty is the best policy unless you
are cheating. If you make a date after meeting a person and
then decide it is not for you, do you ghost them or be honest
and say no thanks after more thought i am not looking for
what you offer? It sounds so lame via text.
6 Comments, 44 Views,
11 Votes
,3.17 Score
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Stupid one lines don't deserve a response 2/17/2019
When someone sends a message saying "I want to fuck"
Or "I'm horny" I don't think a response
is needed. We try to respond to everyone but disrespectful
messages aren't worth our time.
7 Comments, 73 Views,
23 Votes
,3.24 Score
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Basic Manners 2/10/2019
It's always better to just say something as simple
as, not interested or not our type; instead of just ignoring
the person(s) who decided to contact you.
1 Comments, 56 Views,
20 Votes
,3.38 Score
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Why is it so hard? 2/5/2019
I know not everyone is going to want to meet up, or even chat.
But why can't people at least be civil and say they're
not interested? sure this topic has been discussed
ad nauseum, but it's really been burr in my saddle lately.
2 Comments, 27 Views,
14 Votes
,1.70 Score
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Someone Else's F Shack 2/2/2019
This is something that happened several years ago. I started
talking to a woman on here and hit it off very well. After
some erotic chat and phone conversation, we decided to
meet in person. It was very exciting, because we had some
great conversation. <br><br>
Since I had roommates, I couldn't host easily. She
provided me with the option to meet her at her apartment.
I agreed. I ...
1 Comments, 62 Views,
16 Votes
,2.10 Score
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Does it hurt ot have proper manners? 1/27/2019
So, I was sitting here thinking, 'How hard is it really
to just reply and say "No Thank You, I'm (We're)
not interested." <br><br>
I know there are people who will be ultimately be idiots
and not take the simple straight forward hint, but those
should be the exception and not the norm. <br><br>
If we all were to make a concerted effort to be more ...
4 Comments, 42 Views,
21 Votes
,3.99 Score
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Saying No Half-Way 1/23/2019
It really needs to be understood that just because you said
"yes" to sex, doesn't mean you're
obligated to continue. <br><br>
People get uncomfortable. They have second-thoughts,
lose interest, or just decide they aren't ready. <br><br>
And that's totally okay. <br><br>
This especially applies to women, but for everyone out
there - you ...
2 Comments, 36 Views,
13 Votes
,2.98 Score
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Why is it so hard? 1/12/2019
Why is it so hard for people to just say it?
2 Comments, 23 Views,
8 Votes
,3.48 Score
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Be polite? 1/10/2019
Why is it so difficult to say "no thanks" if the
person is not interested? It's frustrating enough
being rejected, but there's no to completely
ignore a request (unless they are harassing you). <br><br>
Thoughts?
2 Comments, 22 Views,
10 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Don't be rude! 1/8/2019
I prefer responding to say "no thanks" rather
than ignore someone. No one likes to be ignored.!
4 Comments, 57 Views,
14 Votes
,4.58 Score
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are the girls really just looking for sex 12/26/2018
are the girls on this site really just looking for sex and
why are their guys on here pretending to be girls
2 Comments, 23 Views,
9 Votes
,2.36 Score
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Is it right to just ignore someone? 12/20/2018
Call me old fashioned but I feel that if smeone says hi to
you in a chat setting, or Im even if you aren't interested
you should say smething and not just ignore the person.
m I wrong in this or is it right to just say ahhhh to hell with
them....
3 Comments, 51 Views,
13 Votes
,2.81 Score
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Catfish 12/13/2018
No thanks can be tricky. Meeting someone for the first time
and they look nothing like their pics that have been posted.
The best way I feel to deal with that situation is to tell
them that they misrepresented themselves.
0 Comments, 37 Views,
18 Votes
,3.67 Score
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Watching 12/12/2018
I have to, on a weekly basis, have to turn down fucking a girl
with her husband watching. This must be way more common
than I thought.
1 Comments, 31 Views,
13 Votes
,2.14 Score
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Hello out there 12/2/2018
I get it that free members have limited chats, but once in
a while just saying "no thanks" to someone is
helpful if you are being messaged first. Does help with
the process of not hitting them up again....
3 Comments, 26 Views,
17 Votes
,2.56 Score
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Bar room pick up. 11/24/2018
Last night I went to my local water hole. When I got there
it was the same locals relaxing around the bar. About half
way through my beer, a slender red head girl walked in. She
sat down a few stools down from me wearing a form fitting
white button down shirt and tight black jeans. When the
bartender asked her for a drink, she said just water she
was waiting for her date. ...
2 Comments, 41 Views,
18 Votes
,1.62 Score
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Taking no for an answer 11/8/2018
Why can’t men jus take no for answer? I myself respect
it when a woman says no and I leave her alone. I have heard
men and talked to men that say they will not take no for an
answer and they will continue to push to get what they want.
Men should just respect it when a woman tells them no. How
many of you out there agree with this?
2 Comments, 34 Views,
20 Votes
,3.64 Score
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how to say not interested 10/27/2018
i have come across a few that i wasnt interested or they werent
interested i dont have a problem saying it but you have some
that juust end up disappearing instead of saying there
not interested is it that hard for some to actually say it
and be truthful
0 Comments, 28 Views,
15 Votes
,3.28 Score
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Be nice 10/14/2018
It seems people contact people but say nothing... of they
just start with nasty openings.. Seem even though this
site is to meet people ... I think being nice should be standard..
<br><br>
fee members or paid members should get the same respect
<br><br>
be smart be nice be safe
0 Comments, 20 Views,
12 Votes
,3.33 Score
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Being pushy 10/10/2018
Why are the single men in here so damn pushy not all but definitely
came across a few of them
4 Comments, 68 Views,
28 Votes
,4.78 Score
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BBC Rejection! 10/9/2018
I understand not everyone is interested in Black Cock and
I don’t try to force it on any female. Ladies if it’s
not your thing I understand but don’t insult us at the
same time you are rejecting the BBC. We are all big girls
and boys I would hope so insults are not needed. Now if you
want to explore the BBC there is a way to do that as well. Hit
me up and let me give you a tip!!
2 Comments, 21 Views,
6 Votes
,1.66 Score
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yes or f off? 9/24/2018
cant you just say no thank you? instead of telling someone
to piss the fuck off and being a rude person. up your game
and be respectfull
1 Comments, 22 Views,
7 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Bots! What’s up with the Bots? 9/19/2018
Okay so I can’t stand bots on sites. They drive me crazy!
When your using a sit and you have to pay for sending messages,
it really sucks when you start chatting with a bot, and don’t
realize it at first. Why? Why do they do this? In all honesty
I know why, but come on? Really?
2 Comments, 23 Views,
11 Votes
,3.73 Score
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Woman looking for money 9/4/2018
Lot of woman on the site who are looking just for money. Not
as a result of a friendship here but as the criteria to have
friendship.
7 Comments, 57 Views,
21 Votes
,4.24 Score
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If they are not your type. 9/4/2018
How do you say no without hurting anyone's feelings?
1 Comments, 50 Views,
19 Votes
,3.65 Score
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why can't the women on hear juat say not interested 9/2/2018
what's up with the girls on hear they start talking
ask for pics and then just stop if they are not interested
why not just say that it is not a big deal just called manners
and being polite
3 Comments, 39 Views,
14 Votes
,4.58 Score
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prositioned 9/1/2018
say no somebody might be in a sting
1 Comments, 12 Views,
5 Votes
,1.19 Score
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No thanks 8/31/2018
It's hard to get to know someone without chatting with
them to see if you click. But once they say no thanks, I do
my best to stop bugging them. <br><br>
Sometimes I say no thanks but that's normally just
to the perv guys, lol... <br><br>
Hope you all respect others.
0 Comments, 9 Views,
8 Votes
,3.71 Score
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Life is how you make it 8/16/2018
Life is how you make it if you want something to happen make
it happen only you can do it no one else
0 Comments, 7 Views,
5 Votes
,1.84 Score
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Why is it weird for guys to say "No thanks" 8/9/2018
Why is it weird when a guy turns down a girl? Maybe hes not
attracted... girls can do it all the time, but a guy does
it and theres something wrong with him.
4 Comments, 32 Views,
12 Votes
,2.98 Score
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Why can't most people do that on here? 8/9/2018
You won't offend me by saying no thanks, or just not
interested. Why are people on here just rude in general.
At least say hi if someone is being courteous. Have some
frickin manners. Just sayin.
0 Comments, 27 Views,
14 Votes
,3.46 Score
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Chemistry 6/29/2018
So if you meet someone from here and find out the chemistry
is just not there, how do you handle it? Do you treat it like
any regular date, or because it started with an emphasis
on meeting for adult fun, end the encounter quickly. Either
way, i think its best to be thoughtful of the impact on others
feelings.
1 Comments, 14 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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Cam play 6/26/2018
Why is everyone so afraid
0 Comments, 19 Views,
12 Votes
,1.74 Score
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When The "No Thanks" is to online communications 6/23/2018
It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks"
when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less
the communication before that "No Thanks"
message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the
other end of the "connection." <br><br>
Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense."
No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...
0 Comments, 9 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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When The "No Thanks" is to online communications 6/23/2018
It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks"
when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less
the communication before that "No Thanks"
message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the
other end of the "connection." <br><br>
Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense."
No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...
0 Comments, 8 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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When The "No Thanks" is to online communications 6/23/2018
It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks"
when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less
the communication before that "No Thanks"
message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the
other end of the "connection." <br><br>
Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense."
No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...
0 Comments, 12 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Excluding the "No" in "No Thanks" 6/21/2018
Rejection is difficult for some to hear. As always, try to be polite and circumvent negative words.
This includes "No." <br><br>
Most people who I have met are very understanding and come
across as being mature. <br><br>
So, in lieu of saying "No", try to express my
preferences and thank them for the compliment.
0 Comments, 5 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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How to say No Thanks, when meeting in person first time 6/15/2018
How do you politely say no thanks, once you've finally
met in person, without coming off rude?
1 Comments, 27 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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when enough is enough 6/14/2018
when some becomes too pushy and you have to say no thanks,
should be enough for any man or woman. letsd have some
respect in this world.
0 Comments, 12 Views,
6 Votes
,2.23 Score
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Przyj\ciele 6/9/2018
http://DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples.com
0 Comments, 3 Views,
2 Votes
,1.04 Score
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ouch 6/9/2018
I love all the people on here that take these amazing pictures
that fool you into thinking they look amazing. Then they
send you a more real picture, this is when I feel lied to!
LOL I know that makes me sound shallow but I have a wide sweep
in taste and some of these pictures are scary. I always get
these after chatting for a while and then I never know what
to say. I don't want to be rude ...
0 Comments, 35 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples IM 5/30/2018
Wondering what every ones thought are on the IM here. Is
it just me or does it seem extremely rude to not at least say
no thanks to a chat request. I understand some people get
bombarded with requests but when I can see that it has been
read at least say no thank you and move on.
3 Comments, 34 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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why do women not reply 5/26/2018
most of the women i send messages to don't reply they
could at least say not interested or no thanks
8 Comments, 62 Views,
12 Votes
,3.33 Score
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Saying "No Thanks" 5/23/2018
If someone writes you or even IMs you and you are not interested
... Please have the courtesy to say "no thanks"
or "Sorry Im not interested". Dont keep them
guessing if you are just busy. Thats how everyone on here
gets annoyed and frustrated. Just a thought that might
help others
7 Comments, 52 Views,
13 Votes
,3.31 Score
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A difference between aggression and desperation 5/21/2018
I'm sort of torn commenting on this. <br><br>
I love it when a woman is confident and strong or submissive
and meek, either is attractive. It's hard to say no
when someone is "desperate" though, too handsy,
overly aggressive and sloppy...ya no thanks.
0 Comments, 10 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Monologue Responding to IM messages 5/17/2018
I'm sure you all experience monologuing when you chat
and no one else answers. Such a waste of time. All it takes
is for you to reply "no thanks" don't leave
us hanging.
1 Comments, 7 Views,
1 Votes
,5.00 Score
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How Hard is it? 5/17/2018
This is just for points lol.
1 Comments, 14 Views,
8 Votes
,2.09 Score
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People that don't respond 5/9/2018
How hard is it to say "No thanks." or "I'll
pass". With the sketchy performance of DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples's
Messenger, how is any to know if an actual message is
getting through? I don't mind saying, "Sorry,
not what I'm looking for at this time." but...nothing???
That's just rude anytime and anywhere. Your thoughts?
2 Comments, 20 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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conversations 5/7/2018
Why is it so hard to start a conversation in IM?
1 Comments, 16 Views,
8 Votes
,2.09 Score
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i wish 5/5/2018
i wish people has the respect to say no thank-you thank-you
1 Comments, 12 Views,
7 Votes
,2.02 Score
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Read and Respect the Profile 4/14/2018
I have made it clear in my profile as to my sexual orientation,
preference. I enjoy doing webcast and interacting with
the viewers. If you have seen any of the very few cast I have
done I address the woman, but if i'm asked a question
I'm going to answer or tell the guys to read the profile.
I don't care who watches but if your not tipping or buzzing
I'm going to block you. I ...
0 Comments, 14 Views,
6 Votes
,2.23 Score
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Persistence even after you say no thanks 4/3/2018
I get it quite a bit from couples... but the persistence
these days when you say no thank you is crazy. I don't
like reporting or ignoring people, but they continually
think they are going to change you mind. This is especially
the case with couples and gay men on here. <br><br>
Anyone else running into this?
1 Comments, 25 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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What not to do. 2/12/2018
So if some takes the time out of their day to message me,
and I still have a chat request remaining (yea it's
ridiculous I need a chat request to REPLY to an incoming
message, thanks new DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples) even if I'm not interested
if the person was at least some who I might have considered
I like to answer and just say no thank you. What I don't
like to do is just ignore them, leave the room ...
1 Comments, 44 Views,
16 Votes
,3.72 Score
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It's best to say no instead of creating 2/7/2018
I use this site frm almost eight years and found here a lot
of fake ID's. And many mention they are here for real
fun but when any one contact them they said they are here
for fun but they were passing their tym.with chat only.
So I think it's better to say no instead of making other
fool.
0 Comments, 36 Views,
24 Votes
,6.65 Score
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polite people 1/28/2018
I know this is a pay site and prohibitive to people who aren't
paying. I would just like people to tell me they're
no interested instead of seeing a pic and ghosting. I am
an adult. it's not like we all haven't had rejection
in our lives. <br><br>
please just communicate. <br><br>
Thank you
5 Comments, 41 Views,
18 Votes
,4.22 Score
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BULLSHIT people are phoney and have NO backbone 1/14/2018
Let me tell you all something, we all find out the hard way
sometimes. It comes down to ppl are not raised right. They
don't have a backbone and common courtesy. What is
right? Just say NO thank you, and move on. BUT, people play
you a long, play fucking ring a round the posey, beat around
the bush. Ultimately you have pissed off people. 
4 Comments, 41 Views,
11 Votes
,3.92 Score
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When you chat and find out the truth 1/5/2018
It’s tough when you see a pic for the first time after chatting
a while, but it’s always best to be hst.
4 Comments, 59 Views,
16 Votes
,4.16 Score
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Why dont people have basic coutesy to reply a IM 12/30/2017
If you are not keen to talk to someone. Why not have basic
coutesy to atleast reply them.. <br><br>
You read the message n ignore.. thats so bad
7 Comments, 60 Views,
11 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Quick and easy 12/27/2017
One of the best ways is to simply say "Thank you, but
I'm not interested. I wish you luck." This works great, as long as it is sincere. If people get
upset at it, that isn't your fault, and you've
done your part.
1 Comments, 18 Views,
11 Votes
,3.73 Score
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So ummm 12/3/2017
Is it just me or are women very good at it? lol
0 Comments, 8 Views,
5 Votes
,1.51 Score
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how do you say NO to your partner 11/17/2017
how do you say no to your partner when you don't want
sexxx ?
2 Comments, 14 Views,
3 Votes
,1.47 Score
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Lots of ‘bots’ or people just looking to make a quick buck 11/14/2017
It seems like when ever I have money I run into someone that
wants money from me. I have no problem spending money on
women but paying for sex is something that isnt in my book
right now.
2 Comments, 15 Views,
4 Votes
,2.86 Score
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NOT JUST NO, BUT HELL NO 10/17/2017
I find it very funny how many people on here pose as couple,
when it is just a bi guy. I also get a kick out of the number
of women on here that are gun hoe till they find out you are
not a young hunk. I myself don't see the need for a young
hunk or a young woman to be here? I know they can find all the
sex they want on their own. I was wondering how many people
here find this site to be a ...
4 Comments, 44 Views,
11 Votes
,3.17 Score
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Honesty before things get weird. 10/16/2017
Sometimes you will find couples that want to do things together,
whether you are into that or not is not the point of this,
it is more to say that if you are up front with your limits
or what you want out of something instead of hoping you can
sneak it in you will get a lot farther in life and relationships.
1 Comments, 18 Views,
8 Votes
,3.01 Score
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Please if you can read my whole profile 10/8/2017
It seems I am having to say no thanks to a number of men simply
because they can't or don't read my whole profile.
I am a young 65 year old who does prefer a younger man. As my
profile states though please no one under 30 or over 55.
It is not that difficult to understand yet I am having to
say no thank you to a number of men. I am always polite say
hello then tell them sorry no the ...
7 Comments, 118 Views,
18 Votes
,4.76 Score
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Politeness 9/20/2017
I always appreciate when someone says no thanks if I page
them on IM. If someone pages me and I dont want to chat I always
let them know instead of ignoring them.
1 Comments, 21 Views,
8 Votes
,3.94 Score
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Just decent 8/16/2017
How many times have you messaged someone and gotten no reply?
I always answer my messages even if it is to say "No
Thanks" at least then the other person has an answer.
It is just common decency.
3 Comments, 25 Views,
9 Votes
,3.21 Score
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Choices that have very fine sinus congestions in the end of the wrong turn I made... 8/13/2017
Is it so very negligent to leave your pets all about and without
proper behavior? Really I'd rather swim in the ocean
and find gold perhaps at the bottom of the abyss than date
a bismol. That way the never ending battle I had with Achilles
and guess what. I offer his soul back up to Zues himself.
The little pixie liked to pick the wrong fights and found
out that I'm superman compared to his ...
1 Comments, 11 Views,
2 Votes
,1.73 Score
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funny i would love how to learn to say no thanks!! 7/17/2017
saying no thanks must be a woman thing, cause as a guy, not
sure I would turn down any woman who wanted to meet.
most women on DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples are very sexy, they may not have sexy hot
bodies, but they do have sexy hot minds. If they don't
I am not getting to the meeting part of chat!!
as long as women are hot any horny, and seem like they enjoy
pleasing people sexually, I am all in!
1 Comments, 13 Views,
9 Votes
,3.00 Score
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Is it so difficult? 7/2/2017
Whenever I make contact to anyone, If I am not going to enjoy
time with them... 1. I don't lead them on 2. I am always polite 3. If asked to get together, it's easy to refuse and
let the (person or individual) know I will not be meeting
them.
Sooo, why is it so difficult for other to do that? Many members
I have found do not ever let you know, we are not a match!
Shameful!!!! ...
1 Comments, 22 Views,
14 Votes
,3.30 Score
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Respeitar o não! 6/24/2017
A mulher como todo homem sabe, é de fases uma hora está
com o humor dos melhores outra hora está com o pior possível,
ela pode dizer que está afim de transar e no mesmo instante
dizer que perdeu a vontade. Muitas vezes isso é de deixar
o cara puto, porém o que sempre prevalece é a vontade de
ambas as partes no que em minha opinião é requisito fundamental
para a relação ser prazerosa, ...
1 Comments, 9 Views,
5 Votes
,3.47 Score
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Two Guys 6/12/2017
I was offered one time to meet two guys at a park. I told them
I was not interested in that. Then one guy was talking to
me and asked if I would just meet him for an exchange blowjob.
I said I would consider that. So we made arrangements to
meet. The park was about 40 miles to get to for each of us.
When I got there he had a camper trailer attached. He was
parked in one of the more inside the ...
1 Comments, 153 Views,
19 Votes
,4.44 Score
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no to a bad night 4/17/2017
when you are out partying trying to enjoy your night when
all of a sudden you get a gut feeling knowing something isnt
right with the girl thats trying to get with you fallow the
gut on feelings that night i had that feeling then found
out that girl that was trying to get with me got locked up
for having a shit ton of drugs in her car
1 Comments, 21 Views,
5 Votes
,2.16 Score
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Don't knock it 4/10/2017
Don't knock it till you try it, don't judge it before
you've had a chance to understand it don't deny
it before you've had a chance to accept it.. I think
that it's rude when somebody hit you up even if they
are outside spectrum of Desire or expectations as far as
what you're looking for on this site or every day in
the world. I think the bypass somebody or not consider them
simply because of ...
8 Comments, 117 Views,
23 Votes
,4.53 Score
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no thanks 4/1/2017
when u say o any one for some of work u r happy
1 Comments, 13 Views,
3 Votes
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Manners 1/23/2017
We recently became members to this site... We have gotten
several flirts, emails, and our profile has been viewed
by many. We have been busy checking out profiles that fit
what we are looking for and I must say we enjoy and are having
fun already.. However there are a couple of single men that
have commented and sent us emails and we have found that
even though we didnt request single men they ...
7 Comments, 142 Views,
16 Votes
,4.89 Score
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emailing 1/15/2017
Why does it seem like on this site women are significantly
more interested in just ignoring emails rather than saying
no thanks. I get the emails that are short, 3 or 4 words, but
when a guy takes the time to compose a thoughtful email,
shouldn't that at least deserve some kind of response?
What happened to common decency?
11 Comments, 77 Views,
6 Votes
,2.23 Score
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Meeting up 12/21/2016
I'm beginning to think everyone is pic collectors.
No one wants to meet without pictures. Remember when we
didn't have the internet and we met for drinks. I have
never had a problem meeting in person and either you are
into them and great or one of you is not into the other and
gi your separate ways. We're all adults. Once someone
has had their identity stolen, fake profiles made and see
how hard ...
4 Comments, 53 Views,
10 Votes
,4.78 Score
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1 Comments, 8 Views,
3 Votes
,3.92 Score
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ussion topics are for original mat 11/21/2016
ussion topics are for original material written by members.
Any plagiarized material will be removed from the site.
Also, please observe the HornyWife Terms of Use. If you
see material that is inappropriate for HornyWife, or that
may have been publish
1 Comments, 11 Views,
3 Votes
,0.49 Score
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This Member "djhits20072 " Male 55yr Old Harassing Me 10/30/2016
This guy seemed nice in beginning conversation. We only
conversated on the phone. After awhile, he began having
notions that I would video us and put it on this site. If you
go to his profile you will see that he is definitely not the
type of male you guys would want to see in a video with me.
Anyway, he kept talking about us being videoed. He began
going over and over again about being videoed ...
1 Comments, 57 Views,
10 Votes
,4.38 Score
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We all have different tastes 10/15/2016
I think it should be fine to just message back saying you
are simply not interested. I have had people tell me they
aren't interested for one reason or another and I think
you just have to remember that we are all individuals with
individual taste. How many of us would be left out if we all
had to fit into a specific mold? That being said I also don't
think people should get all pissed off when ...
5 Comments, 58 Views,
12 Votes
,4.21 Score
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SAY NO THANKS AND RUN WHEN... 10/15/2016
Hi my fellow DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples brother and sisters,
I want to offer some friendly advice, not only to men but
to women too. Please beware of the little foxes and wolves on this site who are
on here targeting us innocent people on here just trying
to have fun and meet great people.
We have to remember that some people are on here with BAD and DESTRUCTIVE motives.
Be sure to keep ...
5 Comments, 82 Views,
19 Votes
,7.08 Score
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The other way around 9/29/2016
Typically, more commonly than not, men are the ones being
rejected when approaching someone of interest, for this
or that reasons. Reasons are not really the subject of my
post. But I was curious, how often does it happen to the ladies?
how did you girls react to the rejection? Did you think it was acceptable, totally unfair, did you
get upset or were you oblivious to it and moved on as fast
as ...
2 Comments, 24 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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being polite 9/12/2016
we are all here pretty much here for the same reason...
this doesn't mean that one should insult or be impolite
to each other... the way I see it - there is either attraction or not - if not
- say no, no thanks or not my type...
I understand that this refers mainly to responses from
women to men BUT some men also need to accept a NO and not further
bother the ladies on this ...
1 Comments, 14 Views,
4 Votes
,3.25 Score
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Personal Preference versus Racism 8/30/2016
I'm all about equality in life, every human being has
a fundamental right to try to make a living and find happiness.
I may not like some aspects of how a given group of people
approach their ethical practices towards others, but
it is behavior that transcends race and creed.
That being said, I was recently approached on another site
by a woman. Nice, similar cultural interests, ...
4 Comments, 43 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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The Best Ways to Say No! 8/30/2016
So I am always curious what a woman on here believes is the
"best way" to say no to someone she is not interested
in.
I know a fair number have decided not responding is a solid
route to get men to stop messaging them. At least eventually.
Women, what have you found is the best way to let a man know
"I am not interested' but at the same time get
a man to stop messaging you over ...
3 Comments, 29 Views,
8 Votes
,2.78 Score
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getting ignored 8/29/2016
I hate when I send a PM or chatrequest and never get any answer.
I think that its common respect to at least tell me "No
thanks i´m not interested" instead of ignoring
me
4 Comments, 29 Views,
7 Votes
,6.10 Score
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Just be Candid 8/26/2016
One of the more difficult things we encounter is to 'not
feel the same way' as someone we might meet. In other
words- we simply are not attracted to them and would prefer
not having intimate relations. How best to let someone
down
In my experience candor with compassion is the best way.
We are all humans with many insecurities and doubts. No
one is perfect and no one is for everyone. ...
0 Comments, 8 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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Tea compared to sex 8/26/2016
If somebody offers you tea or coffee- and you say yes- that
does not necessarily mean that you Will have tea every time
you are together with this person.
The same goes with sex.
1 Comments, 7 Views,
4 Votes
,4.02 Score
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SENSITIVE EGOS 8/25/2016
Some people just don't take "no thanks"
very well. If someone gets on your nerves...
My advice:
When it comes to blocking memebers, don't forget to
be on the FULL site (go through My Account, Blocked Members)
so that you can check ALL the boxes to block them from seeing
your profile (which contains multiple vulnerabilities).
Just blocking someone on the MOBILE site only ...
1 Comments, 14 Views,
3 Votes
,3.43 Score
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Sorry, Ill have to decline 8/15/2016
I have no problem responding back, even if I dont want a meet
and greet. But sometimes I may want to still talk. So many
guys on here are so focus on the meet and greet that they miss
out on other opportunities. Like phone sex, I would be open
to that or playing sex games on the IM. Not everytime you
message a girl will lead to an physical encounter, but at
least there is still fun to be had.
2 Comments, 43 Views,
14 Votes
,4.58 Score
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what happened? 8/7/2016
you know it really bites when you're trying to just
say hello on the IM and people don't respond. Id much
rather hear not interested than wonder if my IM isn't
working. then it's me sitting there wasting my time
and points trying to get a message through to the person
and not understanding why this isn't working?
1 Comments, 21 Views,
4 Votes
,4.41 Score
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Fake 7/24/2016
Why are their so many fake profiles. I wish their was away
to eliminate them from all these sites completely. I have
to say no not because we arent a good fit but just because
of the stupid profiles.
0 Comments, 7 Views,
1 Votes
,3.70 Score
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hayır 7/12/2016
hayır
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0 Votes
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To many 7/12/2016
Where the real woman its to many man trying to get at me. I'm
not gay
1 Comments, 10 Views,
2 Votes
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Is it that hard to say no thanks? 7/10/2016
Is it that hard to say no thanks? simple polite response
just saying your not interested?
4 Comments, 17 Views,
0 Votes
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changes on DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples 6/19/2016
So about three days ago DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples was at it again change the cam
vire you could not even see you owen cam WTH is going on here
new management or what
1 Comments, 12 Views,
0 Votes
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It is better 6/14/2016
To say no thanks than to simply ignore. Most people will
at least try to remember and not bother you again if you can
be honest enough to say "no thanks".
6 Comments, 33 Views,
6 Votes
,4.79 Score
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DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples CHANGES TP STANDARD MEMBERS 6/13/2016
As modt Standard members now know DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples is charging point
soe just about everthing. Im CHAT VIDEO VIEW ETC
3 Comments, 23 Views,
2 Votes
,4.50 Score
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5 Tips to Make "No Thanks" Easier 5/15/2016
It's more fun to say yes than no. Unfortunately
you will encounter the latter more often. The million dollar
question is how to let others know it's no?
Here are 5 tips we try to follow in response to a first date.
Yoda would tell us to "do" not "try"
but we all can't be sages like Yoda.
Oh, and yes, some of these won't work when you are being
propositioned to play ...
0 Comments, 67 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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How do you 5/11/2016
say you are not interested in the best possible way
4 Comments, 47 Views,
13 Votes
,4.49 Score
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Home 5/6/2016
I'm bored and want points
0 Comments, 11 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Whats the best way to say not interested. 4/27/2016
I have gotten a lot of response to my profile that are younger
then what I am looking for. My profile heading is even Coffee
Buddy 60+ w/benefits". I don't want to be rude,
just I am not looking for younger. A few times I had the same
couples ask repeatedly and finally had to block them.
1 Comments, 23 Views,
2 Votes
,3.12 Score
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Why is it diificult for some to at least say "No Thanks"? 4/7/2016
With so many people from all over the world on this site,
it's fair to say you'll find someone you're
interested in meeting with pretty quickly, though it's
also fairly likely that that person may not be interested
in meeting you, for whatever reason.
That's fine, but as far as I'm concerned, basic
courtesy dictates that if you receive a message, then you
at last reply to it, if only to ...
7 Comments, 63 Views,
6 Votes
,4.22 Score
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Do you have morals! 3/26/2016
OK so this actually happened to me in about 10 years ago.
I was out partying with my best friend and his wife and we
went to a local bar where we live just to have a good time and
play pool..... As The night went on we all were getting pretty
buzzed up....Now let me say Jennifer his wife is extremely
gorgeous and I admit I've fanatized about her, anyway
I made my way to the bathroom when ...
3 Comments, 44 Views,
3 Votes
,4.90 Score
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being Gentle 3/23/2016
my own policy when it comes to turning someone down on an
adult site is simply to say, no thank you, thank you for understanding.
There is no advantage at a point of rejection to be offering
specific excuses, as it only creates a defensive situation.
4 Comments, 37 Views,
14 Votes
,5.06 Score
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Doesn't matter how you say it.......... 2/26/2016
It doesn't matter how you say it, the person on the other
end 95% of the time gets offended. Its a lose lose situation.
I have said it so many different ways, changed my profile
so hopefully they wouldn't even email me (that does't
work, men look at pictures), I have even just deleted the
emails being rude and not saying a word but that don't
help either cause they continue to email ...
9 Comments, 79 Views,
14 Votes
,4.58 Score
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They get there and they aren't what you expected 1/21/2016
Has anyone ran into the situation where you invited someone
from DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples over with adult fun in mind only to find they are
not as advertised? How did you handle this situation. I'm
sure it is really awkward for everyone involved. Or maybe
there was something that just turned you off when they finally
got there. How did you handle saying "no thanks"?
10 Comments, 156 Views,
14 Votes
,4.74 Score
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I might be too blunt 1/13/2016
If I'm not interested it's going to be a straight
up answer. I am nice but blunt is anyone else like that or
am I the only bitch. If you n I have nothing in common I'm
sorry but it's not happening
NO THANKS
4 Comments, 33 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Temptation NOT 1/5/2016
Remembering my fun days i just sit back and smile. Always
been great at showing my passion when i have sex. Saying
this to say i have had a lot of unforgettable times. But time
stops for no one if you don't take care of your self it
shows. So when a old sex partner hits me up on social media
I look sometimes and be like damn what happened. No thanks
even if i remember how delightful your pussy ...
0 Comments, 13 Views,
0 Votes
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YES or NO 12/13/2015
we do say YES when its come about sex life and normally word
NO in sex life was just a word thats mean nothing. As long
we live and ability to want means YES to our sex life
2 Comments, 20 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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Sent mixed signal and chasing a lost of interest 11/11/2015
This is usually the reason why people pursue after someone.
Because they thought they may be interested in them or may
possibly give them a chance however when the individual
decides to say no then the aggressor typically a man ( Man
dominated cultures and in this chase America) thinks the
chase (woman/man) is just playing hard to get. It is the
flirts, misinterpreted body language that has ...
1 Comments, 30 Views,
10 Votes
,4.38 Score
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rejection on reason basis and strength of rejection 10/30/2015
some people just do not like to accept "i don't
like you" as an answer. what could be done in this case?
one of the good choices could be reasoning and explaining
the reason unless he/she is some kind of psycho, in which
case rejection should be strong and exempt from reasoning
2 Comments, 22 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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NO! 10/29/2015
Hey Look Ppl - No is NO and they usually [90%] mean just that
= NO. Once should be enough! To keep going is not only pointless,
but it is also very annoying and can lead only to trouble.
Listen and comply.
3 Comments, 19 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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JUST SAY "NO". 10/8/2015
Some people are just so sweet hearted that even on a sex site
they have difficulty saying NO to someone who is trying
to get them into bed. No one enjoys being rejected but...for
something as serious as giving my body to someone for their
pleasure and me indulging in theirs I feel a need to be extremely
picky. Maybe if you don't get many invites and you are
desperate to get laid your expectations ...
10 Comments, 155 Views,
31 Votes
,6.50 Score
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Traveled the Road Less Traveled 10/4/2015
Well Ladies and Gentlemen, I tried to travel down the road
less traveled and let me tell you... I learned some major
lessons.
As Oprah would say, what I know for sure is... what I like
and do not like and what I will and will not tolerate.
Let me explain I traveled down the road of younger guys and
what my experience was... the sex was great, but... and
we all know that the but ...
3 Comments, 74 Views,
11 Votes
,4.48 Score
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FILLES open sur la rivesud de montreal ?? 9/19/2015
Yas tu du mondes sul party a soir
0 Comments, 2 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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How do you feel when you make a "date" for swinging and the other party does not show up? 9/12/2015
Whenever a party says they will meet for a sexual encounter
and they do not show up, what do you do?
4 Comments, 39 Views,
9 Votes
,4.07 Score
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whoa can we meet you before your genitals 9/6/2015
Why ...just why lol do people think it is attractive to send
genital pics in their 1st ever message to you like hi this
is my stuff do you like....um I don't even know anything
about you yet...immediate turn off
8 Comments, 45 Views,
11 Votes
,6.35 Score
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Male Head vs. Female Head 8/28/2015
This is a repost of an blog I did in 2012
I am just flabbergasted about a NSA that I had with a dude
here on DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples. 1st of all he did not read my post. 2nd he was selfish and lazy. 3rd he wanted me to give him head but not return the favor.
4th he had the ordasity to get upset about it. 5th he still wanted to have sex after I left.
This is a 38 year old man (now he's ...
4 Comments, 82 Views,
17 Votes
,6.24 Score
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Harsh Articulation 8/15/2015
In response to the email I received asking if I am interested
in you I will begin by stating that I read your profile thoroughly
in an effort to offer a no ‘bs’ and sincere answer. Typically
I would simply not take the time to read through a profile
without a profile picture attached. It shows a lack of confidence
and conviction. That, in and of itself, is less attractive
than the homeliest ...
4 Comments, 48 Views,
8 Votes
,4.87 Score
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Say No Gracefully 6/21/2015
If something is not working out, just let the other person
know as soon as possible. When you tell them, be as gracious as possible. Thank then for what they have done for you in the past and/or
pay them a compliment. Then, gently let them know that things
are not working out, why they are not working out, and then
tell them that things must end. When you tell them the reasons,
try not to blame ...
6 Comments, 41 Views,
12 Votes
,5.98 Score
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Women don't have a patent on preference 6/1/2015
There's no doubt that the man to woman ratio on this
site is 500/20. That means a man has a 4% chance of actually
getting as much attention as a woman on here. This doesn't
include couple status. The women seem to be the smart ones
on here. The ones worth talking to are selective, as a man
should be. Some people just don't get it though. All
I can do is shake my head when I hear a woman talk ...
6 Comments, 70 Views,
9 Votes
,5.14 Score
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But they won't go away! 5/16/2015
I have met a few guys on this site. I usually message back
and forth, then either make a decision whether I want to
continue on or cut the ties. Behavior that is persistent,
constantly messaging me on my phone while I'm asleep
or at work...ugh! This is why when I get messages from guys
I know there is not a chance in hell we will have any chemistry,
I don't respond. I also have a message that ...
3 Comments, 71 Views,
17 Votes
,4.12 Score
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I agree with something SensuousShades said..... 5/1/2015
If I am approached in a polite respectful manner....I will
likely respond in the same way. You get what you give.
If you repeatedly email me "hey lets fuck",
"me in ur pussy" Or "come suck my cock"...
You will get nothing from me. Honestly, I don't "owe"
anyone anything if I don't even know them. That's
part of the territory in this community. If you don't
get a response......don't be ...
5 Comments, 62 Views,
19 Votes
,7.21 Score
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I suppose 3/18/2015
The way respond to unwanted emails or IMs is based on the
request we've received. If the person messaging us
is polite we'll respond with "thank you for your
interested, but you aren't what we're looking
for."
Sometimes people say things that we can't actually
respond to so we leave those messages unanswered. Messages
like "Hi, I want to cum on your face" don't
get responses.
6 Comments, 68 Views,
17 Votes
,6.24 Score
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At least say No! 3/13/2015
Just wish if you contact someone they would say No! Saying
nothing is worse.
10 Comments, 105 Views,
15 Votes
,4.36 Score
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How to let down some unwanted suitor. 3/4/2015
Ever have this happen to you.. You check out your e-mail
and find someone from the same sex hitting on you, or a sexually
unattractive member wanting you to have an encounter with
them. Face it the world is a crap-shoot. That's the
adventure called: romance. How to not to seem rude and decline
the offer. Just say in a polite manner, " I'm flattered that you have found me attractive, but I'm
not ...
11 Comments, 86 Views,
11 Votes
,3.17 Score
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Mean People Suck 3/1/2015
I've been here for while. I've been successful.
I had a lot of fun, and I've met some very special ladies.
I think about each one as a bottle of wine, the bottle that
I shared with them: Chardonnay, Riesling, a particularly
good vintage of South African Wine, and yes even a Merlot.
I've also met some real jerks, at least on line.
I have sent at least 200 emails to which I received no ...
4 Comments, 59 Views,
5 Votes
,5.10 Score
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IM 1/28/2015
i am a charming guy trying to make conversation and too many
times i get someone just suddenly end an IM conversation.
isn't there a more polite way to say we should end this?
2 Comments, 18 Views,
1 Votes
,2.40 Score
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This has probably has been discussed alot but. 12/17/2014
How do you best say your not interested in another couple
in a face to face meet n greet? I have always respected being
honest with people but sometimes a white lie in these cases
are too bad. Tell me your thoughts ....
2 Comments, 47 Views,
5 Votes
,3.14 Score
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I think this might mess our friendship up 11/18/2014
Tell them that there a really great person but our friendship
means more to me then just a hook up
1 Comments, 61 Views,
6 Votes
,2.51 Score
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Saying No 11/13/2014
How would you go about saying no thanks to someone who is
incredibly persistent yet sweet at the same time?
13 Comments, 105 Views,
12 Votes
,3.86 Score
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Too much 11/12/2014
Saying no just got to be too much now we just ignore profiles
that we're not interested in.
5 Comments, 71 Views,
13 Votes
,4.15 Score
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Using IM 11/8/2014
I find that many simply never respond to an IM request for
chat. Is there any etiquette on this matter?
11 Comments, 108 Views,
9 Votes
,4.49 Score
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Testimonials 11/7/2014
Do you sometimes say no thanks to someone that has given
you a testimonial?
5 Comments, 49 Views,
7 Votes
,5.08 Score
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To thank or not to thank 11/6/2014
I use to love going on the IM but I rarely do now because all
it turns into is a steady stream of vulgar come ons from every
jerk ever put on this site. I not only don't say no thanks
I ignore them altogether and let them wonder if their IM
is working.
3 Comments, 63 Views,
18 Votes
,5.85 Score
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What's the best way to say, I'm not interested. 11/3/2014
I get a lot of men that are not in my desired target (too old,
couples, everything but single, live too far away) messaging
me. I put in my profile specifically what I'm looking
for but the majority of contacts I get are not what I'm
looking for. What's the best way to say, no thanks I'm interested
or don't hit me up.
3 Comments, 65 Views,
9 Votes
,3.64 Score
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No 10/31/2014
Saying no has become very easy to say on this site especially
with single guys.
1 Comments, 41 Views,
5 Votes
,4.12 Score
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Blocked!!! 10/21/2014
There's no need to feel like you have to answer all these
guys, just block them period.
2 Comments, 44 Views,
11 Votes
,4.29 Score
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It is always better. 10/16/2014
It is always better to know whether a person likes you or
not..Or better to tell another person that you do not like
them. Why leave a person hanging. If you go to a meet and the
person is not the same as the picture, or is just someone
you do not feel is what you are looking for, then let them
know. I prefer to know and have had a few ladies tell me why and it
makes me understand their point ...
2 Comments, 24 Views,
6 Votes
,5.36 Score
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No thanks. 10/15/2014
Do single guys realize that most women and couples get hit
repeatedly every day with stupid emails from single guys?
We have jobs we don't need another one answering all
the stupid stuff that comes our way. Oh and here's an idea try writing things that make sense
and that don't reek of coming from an 11 year old.
9 Comments, 77 Views,
19 Votes
,4.84 Score
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The Best Way to Respond to "No Thanks" Replies 10/14/2014
Like anyone who has been on DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples for any length of time and
has tried to make contact with someone, I have received
my share of "Thanks, but No Thanks" replies.
I have been told however, that my response to those "No
Thanks" replies is quite different than what most
women receive from those kinds of replies.
I am not rude or abusive to the woman who told me "No
Thanks". I do not whine or ...
0 Comments, 68 Views,
12 Votes
,4.92 Score
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Ignoring people if not interested or politely declining 10/11/2014
What is the outlook on this? Do people prefer to hear back
even if it is not the response they would like to hear or will
being ignored also do the job. Also if you have to deal with unwanted attention do you prefer
to let them know or simply ignore it and the potential backlash
of a "sore loser" along with it?
5 Comments, 43 Views,
7 Votes
,2.53 Score
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Honesty the best policy? 10/11/2014
If you are not interested, what's the best way to say...No
Thanks! Ignore someone or just say no?
4 Comments, 34 Views,
6 Votes
,3.37 Score
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Since you asked... 9/30/2014
As I glanced at the articles on the Saying "No Thanks"
page, I noticed that 5/12 of the articles on the first page
were all regarding the fact that women here often don't
give a polite 'no thank you" when emailed or IMed.
I certainly don't expect that posting my reason for
not responding to those who contact me will make a dent in
the future "why are women so rude" questions,
but here goes ...
7 Comments, 113 Views,
18 Votes
,3.81 Score
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Why does this seem to be so difficult.... 9/21/2014
I can understand that a huge amount of requests are posted
on this site especially in the chat rooms & IM, but so
many people just don't have the time to reply with a
polite "No Thanks", it's almost like everybody
is in such a rush or seem to hold themselves in such a high
esteem that it's below them to do so (you know who you
are people, admit it). I was always brought up to be polite and it's ...
7 Comments, 84 Views,
12 Votes
,1.39 Score
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CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR DIRTY SEX MIND? 9/8/2014
A couple of years ago I was really into nipples. Human nipples
in particular (you wanted to take it there). I loved the
way my partner’s nips felt up against my skin, and the
way mine felt against their man-chest and lips. I loved
the sensation and the eroticism of the little weird evolutionary
phenomenon. I think my curiosity turned into a playful
exploration of all the cool things you could ...
5 Comments, 119 Views,
22 Votes
,4.93 Score
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avoid shit 9/4/2014
Sometimes u just have to say no wat is for u is for u don't
rush life avoid unexpected stuff in like avoid say no
1 Comments, 28 Views,
9 Votes
,2.14 Score
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It has to work for both or not at all 9/4/2014
Whenever I talk or chat with someone about meeting, I try
to make it very clear that even though it may sound like a
match and a hot time ahead, you don't know if it works
for you until you meet. Everyone has their own preferences
and attractions, I always meet with the agreement that
if it won't work for either one, it is a thanks, but no
thanks, a handshake, and good luck to you. I am not ...
4 Comments, 84 Views,
3 Votes
,5.39 Score
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Do men read profiles at all 9/2/2014
Yes i like both men and women but at this time I'm looking
for only women to play with but these men seem to think they
can change you mine by saying I need dick if i want dick i will
get dick but i want and need pussy no thank you another black
men s
6 Comments, 81 Views,
13 Votes
,4.82 Score
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Saying No 8/29/2014
When someone isn't attractive to you but keeps coming
at you how do you let them down easy?
4 Comments, 45 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Being Polite 8/25/2014
I wish that people on this site would try a little to be polite.
If somebody sends you a message and you are not interested
in them; just respond back and say that you appreciate their
interest in you, but you are not interested.
I do not think it is very nice to just ignore their message.
Think of it like this: they found you attractive enough
to take the time to send a message, you ...
13 Comments, 108 Views,
25 Votes
,2.69 Score
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Second Encounter 8/17/2014
How do you let someone know that you're not interested
in a second encounter?
2 Comments, 48 Views,
4 Votes
,1.30 Score
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The best way 8/15/2014
What's the best way for a girl to tell you that they aren't
interested? Do you want a response? Is an explanation needed
or is "no thanks" enough? Do guys realize that
many will send back a response that mimics the attitude
that the interest is given?
4 Comments, 55 Views,
9 Votes
,5.56 Score
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Ways to not say "no" 7/23/2014
If you send someone a friend request and your YIM and then
suddenly start ignoring all messages, even those that
say "Hey, it's ok if you are not interested, JUST
LET ME KNOW, " that is rude. Please just say "Sorry,
I am really not interested in pursuing anything further
with you." Believe me, most people on here are mature
enough to say in response, "OK, good luck, "
and move on to the next ...
12 Comments, 70 Views,
10 Votes
,2.39 Score
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Hypocrisy? 7/12/2014
DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples has been a good platform for like minded people to get
to know each other...express themselves. But i guess the
reality is very different. Many a times the profiles are
misleading. The response one gets is so different that
what's in profile. Knowing well that with distance, different priorities
and in general the circumstances it would not be possible
to always meet in person. The big ...
4 Comments, 85 Views,
7 Votes
,4.06 Score
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just say . . . 7/8/2014
no.
i've already had enough to eat.
thanks though.
k.
bai.
2 Comments, 13 Views,
3 Votes
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The Polite No Thank you 7/5/2014
So, here you are on the instant messenger. You log on to see
who's chatting, someone flashes across your screen
with a hello, you quickly view their profile, you're
not interested! What do you do?
Well, from experience that my significant other has had
on this site, most people just ignore the other person if
they're not interested.
I am one of the types that believe that's not ...
10 Comments, 121 Views,
28 Votes
,6.73 Score
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No Reply Is a Message Also! 6/27/2014
That's what the blogger wrote on my blog awhile back:
"No reply is also a reply." I wonder about that
really? I mean, I know it could be, but I also have found that
days later after I have made an inquiry with someone by sending
them an introductory email, they respond and not always
in a negative fashion.
"I've just been so inundated by emails."
one sweet lady wrote. Another said she ...
4 Comments, 40 Views,
4 Votes
,4.80 Score
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Why is it so hard to reply 6/15/2014
Why do people, women, never reply to messages even if just
to say "sorry no thanks". Surely it cannot that
hard to do.
7 Comments, 123 Views,
18 Votes
,3.40 Score
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I listen to NO 6/14/2014
I listen when someone tells me no. I respect their choice,
and will ask, if it is appropriate, what led to their decision.
I prefer conversation to conflict, and think that feedback
allows me to make changes if needed. However, that doesn't
mean I won't ever ask again! There is a place for persistence,
and I have even been called stubborn (really). I had a work place encounter that ...
0 Comments, 31 Views,
4 Votes
,3.63 Score
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The power of saying NO / YES / MAYBE - and the courage it takes... 4/26/2014
Ok, so you are not interested. How about just say: "Thanks
- but no thanks". Believe me, it is more elegant to
say No Thanks, than to disappear after countless exchanges,
or a lame excuse, like "the ate my _ _ _ _ _".
We are all adults here (ok, that's a long shot). The
fact is that there's power in saying no. Where negativity
is an ongoing attitude, No is a moment of clear choice. It
announces, ...
4 Comments, 78 Views,
12 Votes
,1.92 Score
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women 4/2/2014
Women on this site are such ass wipes if u dou wanna take to
a guy wen he sends a message tel them that don't not send
a message and then I keep replieyin thinkin u didn't
get my massage and then al of a sudden am a freak yr such ass
hole
15 Comments, 167 Views,
18 Votes
,0.53 Score
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be nice 2/16/2014
give some kind of response, let them know u got message, or
they might keep mailing
3 Comments, 62 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Everyone On DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples has been really, really polite to me 2/3/2014
People have either said no thanks and said why, or they've
said, later and then contacted me later to get together.
I love this site, it's a great place to meet people.
I've tried some other sites and didn't have any
luck whatsoever.
3 Comments, 58 Views,
9 Votes
,4.28 Score
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It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them 1/23/2014
Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.
We've had a hard time with three or four single guys
- our add clearly states no single men but they continue
to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth
time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut,
a and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile
soon disappeared from DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples.
Since then I ...
3 Comments, 66 Views,
11 Votes
,4.10 Score
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It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them 1/23/2014
Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.
We've had a hard time with three or four single guys
- our add clearly states no single men but they continue
to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth
time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut,
a and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile
soon disappeared from DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples.
Since then I ...
3 Comments, 41 Views,
9 Votes
,4.92 Score
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How many 'No Thanks' can you take? 1/20/2014
Browsing down the categories to see where I should post
this and the SAYING 'NO THANKS' heading waved
and whistled at me..... Been married 35 years and it is a very strong marriage with
some severe tests along the way; great highs, painful lows
and buckets of tears and laughter along the way. We are very close and are best friends and the only secret
I have from my wife is my registration on ...
5 Comments, 101 Views,
4 Votes
,2.47 Score
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How do you say No? 10/28/2013
Do you take the time to right back to the person and say why
you aren't interested? Do you just reply with a simple
NO? Do you reply with a rude turn down? Or do you just ignore
the emailer if you're not interested.
12 Comments, 154 Views,
16 Votes
,3.42 Score
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confused i am 9/23/2013
so many times men complain they do not get a reply from women
either by email or on the IM chat.
well explain this.... as i have just been lectured by an
18yr old boy that i was rude for accepting his chat request
and explaining my preferences to him, several times
he was then abusive and told me i was wasting his time by accepting
the chat
so we get criticized when we ...
12 Comments, 141 Views,
22 Votes
,5.41 Score
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Constructive 9/18/2013
Do you give constructive criticism when saying no?
4 Comments, 51 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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how to say it and not be rude 8/6/2013
there seems to be a culture that says saying no is insulting,
i have to disagree, asserting your right to make the choice
you want without fear of peer pressure is fundamental part
of life. admittedly i dont get to say no much on here!
0 Comments, 29 Views,
6 Votes
,3.93 Score
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If there is just no attraction... 7/21/2013
One of the tougher reasons to just say, especially if a woman
on this site is showing interest and there is just no attraction
towards her, but in the few cases, I have tried to be honest
instead of just leaving it go. Thoughts?
6 Comments, 83 Views,
7 Votes
,2.79 Score
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Safe Sex 7/9/2013
Play Safe!!!!
1 Comments, 27 Views,
5 Votes
,3.80 Score
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¿Qué no harías? 7/7/2013
¿Qué no te gustaría hacer?
0 Comments, 7 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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ok 3/27/2013
It hurts a little but its polite and averyone should have
their say
0 Comments, 42 Views,
8 Votes
,2.55 Score
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fitness 3/27/2013
lets try and look after our bodies. at least lets try. its
always sexy to our partners
1 Comments, 25 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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I have a difficult time saying "no thanks" 3/14/2013
In general, women that I meet via DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples fall into three main
categories: "Yes!", "Not great, but
she'll do" and "No $%#@ way!!".
You can call me shallow. You can call me a sex fiend or a predator. I don't think so - just an ordinary guy looking for some
fun.
The twist is that I'm a gentleman. I don't abuse the women that I meet. I treat them well - with respect and try to keep ...
4 Comments, 93 Views,
10 Votes
,2.79 Score
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I wish it was easier to say NO 2/18/2013
People come on here, and verbally abuse young women when
they are not interested. over and over again, messaging,
not giving it up, it almost makes me scared to come on here.
i wish there was a way to stop it.
6 Comments, 87 Views,
7 Votes
,3.80 Score
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Implied "No Thanks" 2/16/2013
I can accept a "no thank you". Its clear, and
easily understood.
What ALOT of us men get unfortunately, are NO responses.
If the man actually took time to write a paragraph that didnt
include WANNA FUCK, or COME FUCK NOW, then shouldnt you return the common courtesy
of a response?
NO response is just rude. If you had time to read it, you have
time to type a response.
6 Comments, 94 Views,
11 Votes
,5.04 Score
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rejection 2/12/2013
girsl probably reject a lot here.. i mena seriously they
must get like 100 messages a day and they get to pick who they
wanna fuckk.... isnt it tru ladies....
2 Comments, 45 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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Question, Would You Rather Be Told No Up Front 2/5/2013
We have a couple we like and have been talking to on a regular
basis for nearly two years. Both are extremely hot and both
tell us that they want to take their first plunge with us,
which I believe, but Danny is skeptical.
I say they're afraid to take the plunge, that it is erotica
for them to talk to us, share pictures with us, talk of swapping;
of their fantasies.
However, ...
8 Comments, 139 Views,
14 Votes
,4.10 Score
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No Thanks and Just Being Ignored 1/20/2013
Well I had to come here and post an article. It is also a pet
peeve of mine about sending out completely nice and respectful
emails and never hearing a reply back. Sure, it's hard
to say no thank you but it then leaves no doubt you're
not interested.
Also what I hate even more is when I start an email conversation,
goes for 1-2 messages and the woman stop replying. She's
on but ...
7 Comments, 77 Views,
5 Votes
,1.51 Score
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Isnt Easy 12/24/2012
you email you chat you share picks and you decide that you
would like to me... You make the plans and you meet and on the surface all is cool...but
under the conversation and laughter that lil spark required
to get naked isnt what it should be.....you know it will
never happen
been there done that...it just isnt easy since the underlying
reason for meeting was to get naked.....I would ...
3 Comments, 83 Views,
8 Votes
,4.64 Score
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Manners.... 11/25/2012
Why do some people not takes a minute to say no thanks if they
arent interested. It's only polite...
6 Comments, 62 Views,
7 Votes
,3.30 Score
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Respect 11/23/2012
Why do some not understand that a simple no means just that...no?
Please people respect is essential if you respect others
you will simply get much further in the lifestyle as well
as in life.
1 Comments, 8 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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No Thank You it stings only for a min 10/29/2012
We once had to have the most awkward of "No -Way back
in the beginning, our first encounter actually..before
the internet..so you spent time on the phone getting info
and mental pictures from their descriptions. After a number
of conversations we all agreed to drive half the distance
to the other and meet for coffee.
They had got there first and looking for the car we drove
and as we ...
1 Comments, 48 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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mm 10/27/2012
It Be Times When Some One ASk You If You Want This And That
, but it want hurt you to tell them no thanks at times
0 Comments, 10 Views,
0 Votes
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Why? 8/13/2012
I have come to notice that most people on this site are either
to full of them selves to be polite or just don't care.
Personally, being ignored is a personal pet peeve and is
the quickest way to piss me off. When you get a email or IM
from me and take the time to look at my profile even if you
are not interest you could do me the courtesy of saying sorry
not interested vs just deleting ...
7 Comments, 66 Views,
11 Votes
,0.92 Score
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Why are folks afraid to say "not interested", "thanks anyway", etc... 8/11/2012
Having been on here a while now, I have met some cool folks
and exchanged emails here and off the site. What I just don't
get though is the lack of response from members...
I've read and talked with others about how the sites
full of fakes, nobody is real, etc...
Is that the reason for lack of response? Or is it lack of decency
or some feeling of superiority? Something else?? ...
5 Comments, 65 Views,
9 Votes
,3.21 Score
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One Should Accept No 6/27/2012
I am into swinging life style for last 8 years and over the
years I have met many Couples and women.My experiences
told me that No is a wonderful thing and one should accept
it very gracefully. Not every one I met went forward to have
sex. Many occasions we met and chemistry didn't worked
out so we had our coffee or drink and left.Not many could
take it gracefully and they bitch about you but few ...
0 Comments, 34 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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DIFFICULT TO AVOID 5/30/2012
I MYSELF FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SAY THIS WHEN SOMEONE INTIMATES
ME
1 Comments, 45 Views,
5 Votes
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being nice 5/26/2012
saying no can be harder than saying yes? right? sometimes
it is just easier to go with the flow and just sleep with a
partner because easier than to say i dont like y64, that's
life, you got to be strong.
0 Comments, 23 Views,
4 Votes
,0.92 Score
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When Did Common Courtesy Go Out the Window? 5/24/2012
I am truly amazed at the rude behavior being exhibited on
DateEtc - Dating For Ladies and Couples these days. It hasn't always been this way. Ten
years ago, people were much more courteous and kind. If
you were not their type, they would politely say so.
Today, someone will message me or I them and once they realize
I'm married or not "perfect", they simply
disconnect without so much as a "sorry, your not my
type" or ...
4 Comments, 102 Views,
7 Votes
,3.55 Score
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Be Up Front and Fast 5/22/2012
The best way to do say no on the IM chat is to do it quickly,
otherwise the message sender thinks you've stepped
away from your computer for a moment (or whatever) and they'll
keep sending messages and bugging u. Oh, and hoping that
they'll read your profile to see what your preferences
might be (a polite thing to do for sure) is a lost hope. Some
people are just going to do what they do but if ...
3 Comments, 75 Views,
10 Votes
,3.19 Score
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How do you do it ? 5/7/2012
How do you say "no thanks" to someone without
coming across rude?
1 Comments, 55 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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drugs are bad 5/3/2012
sometimes when I date a girl, she comes up with this stupid
idea to do drugs, weed or white powder. It's really annoying, as if drugs enhance your stamina
or improve your mindset
you just have to say no thanks, bang her and move on...
0 Comments, 33 Views,
7 Votes
,1.00 Score
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We think No means No 4/22/2012
If someone is hesitant in any way shape or form then respect
of their wish is imperative.
1 Comments, 56 Views,
8 Votes
,2.09 Score
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Courtesy is very easy to offer 3/20/2012
We can't account for the behavior of other people but
we can account for our own behavior. Being on an adult sight
doesn't give anyone a license to be a jerk.
There are lots of folks here without photos or any identifying
information which I understand completely but the shame
is that this level of anonymity often leads to very bad behavior...in
other words a lack of general human ...
4 Comments, 53 Views,
8 Votes
,4.17 Score
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Let's try it 3/11/2012
Small cub Friend alway say no ? He saw he wanted only he he had a big dick but he was all total
safe -sez bottom. Good sex ass and friend for me.I says being
a Total Top yes!
Small cub, finding top guys to bend his little ass oversize-ones
with a thanks.
0 Comments, 19 Views,
0 Votes
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What's the problem? 2/1/2012
I don't believe a lot of people understand
what the two words 'no thanks' means. How many
times does a person need to say it? ...
5 Comments, 96 Views,
23 Votes
,3.60 Score
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No Thank you to Smokers 1/20/2012
I say over and over No thankyou .why cant a person understand
No thankyou Im alergic to tobbacco. No matter how you try
cover it up how sexy you think you are or how youll quit after
No thankyou .I like to breathe
2 Comments, 70 Views,
11 Votes
,3.92 Score
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I just cant 12/22/2011
Have you ever had that one guy that no matter how much you
tell yourself no and that you can do better still gets to
you some how? Well I have a guy like that. Ever since the first
time we hooked up I just cant say no. He can go without talking
to me for a month but when he calls me or texts me to hook up
I fight a little or make myself unavailable, but the sex
is so hot that I just give in ...
4 Comments, 133 Views,
6 Votes
,3.65 Score
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Distance Rejection 12/19/2011
I reject people who live more than 100 miles away and they
get very upset typically. I dont understand why so many
long distance people contact me and why they get huffy when
I say no. Just happened todat with somone over 2000 miles
away, and NO photo to send!
5 Comments, 98 Views,
8 Votes
,3.94 Score
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Please dont be a dick 12/9/2011
My profile plainly states im looking for a specific thing
so please dont be a dick when you contact me and show what
you dont have and im not interested. I know that makes me
sound like a bitch i just know what i want and if you dont have
it dont pretend you do in my opion your actualy the douch
for wasting our time.
5 Comments, 225 Views,
18 Votes
,3.94 Score
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I'm just not Interested 12/7/2011
I get a number of emails, some i find very interesting and
others i don't...I have no problem with respectfully
declineing anyone if i don't feel there is a honest
attraction....But i have noticed that i get alot of rude
and tasteless emails as a reply, so my question is should
i just ignore those that i'm not interested in or do
i continue being repectful and letting them know that i'm
not ...
2 Comments, 134 Views,
11 Votes
,2.98 Score
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always be both polite and firm 12/2/2011
I have found that when I am not interested in someone that
being honest is best, you should try to be polite but firm,
that way it spares hard feelings and embarasment for them.
the honesty should be appreciated.their feelings may
be a little hurt, but they will respect you for being honest.
1 Comments, 11 Views,
1 Votes
,3.70 Score
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yes=no 10/29/2011
On my wife and I's couples profile we have experienced
a lot of people not taking no for an answer. On several occasions
had men and couple hound us even after we said we're
not interested. When did saying no become saying yes? It
seems people think it is ok to hound someone for sex just
because this is a "hook up" site.
3 Comments, 30 Views,
2 Votes
,5.20 Score
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Why is it so hard to say 'No thank you"? 10/20/2011
Why do people find it so hard to say "no thank you"?
And for others to accept that response. We have a few couples
that even though we have chatted a number of times and each
time have come to the conclusion that we are not compatible
together for various reasons. (For example one wants us
to be exclusive to them only until they decide otherwise,
they say it is for safety reasons being worried ...
4 Comments, 97 Views,
15 Votes
,5.58 Score
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