I am married. Been so for 20+ years. I love him and he loves me but he is not fulfilling my sex drive so I am exploring the possibility of taking a secret lover. My ideal partner would also be in a long-term, fixed relationship. Privacy and confidentiality are a must. I require respect just as I will respect you. My ideal partner is clean, assertive, imaginative and passionate. Would be open to explore dom/sub play (me as sub). I am also interested in getting to know you as a per, just as I hope you would for me. I am not interested in a one-time fuck AT ALL. I insist we meet in a public place, in Seattle, at least once, before any sex. Testing for chemistry and whether or not I feel safe with you is very important to me.