CAN''T SEE messages, unless you have Standard Contacts, and won't upgrade to Gold until they drop the price. Guess I'll just keep on stroking and wishing you could give me a helping hand . . . OLD MARRIED GUY with permission to try new things as long as I am careful and disreet (so no face pix). I am too old to start getting STDs now so establishing trust before anything physical is essential. Start slow, see where it goes? PREFER NEWBIE like me...fewer partners = less risk. Plus more fun exploring if it is new for both of us.