Profile Update: 9 May 15 Now, for the small part of me, beyond BDSM, that will possibly turn you off on me, or, should I say, stop any thoughts of forming a relationship with me of the romantic or sexual nature: I am disabled. Nope. Not bound to a wheelchair or the like though I do have back issues which ultimately led to me quitting the job lifestyle, becoming disabled in the eyes of the government. If you are still here, read on. If you want to know more about my disabilities, PM me. If you want to know more of me beyond disabilities, PM me. First, the one with the most power, IMHO, is the sub. They can put a stop to any scene with just a word. I do not follow RACK instead looking to SSC for guidance. BDSM is risky enough with everything that is planned within a scene without adding more by not using safewords and the like. And there will be a contract which will specify fetishes to hard limits, from there we will know what is available and not. If you are a doormat, please look elsewhere. I'm a pansexual. "I love the hearts, not the parts." Well, the parts are fun too, but... (◕‿◕✿) Though, I tend to lean to the feminine form. (The sex of "feminine form" person may be female, male, what have you.) I am open to any sex and gender identity — male, female, trans*, etcetera. No, this does not mean I'm desperate and will dive into a relationship with anyone. It means what it means. I have no negative issues with any sex or gender identity a person may have. It is the heart and soul that matters, not the outer form. Before I talk about my Dom/sub sides, I am a switch, I think, having no experience as a submissive in a relationship. I would love to find someone who will Service Top during these rare times. This is not a requirement, though it would be easier on me, me being a mono-kinda-guy. (^_^) If I find one who can top, great, if not, fine. I have a FetLife account using the same nick, btw: Rycharde. Primarily, I'm the Dominant I have had one, M/s, 24/7, TPE relationship. It had its good and bad times. Overall, I think I would not want to try that again. It would take the right mix between me and a potential slave for it to work. I think a 24/7 relationship may work, but without the full TPE. Talking about my interests, kinks and fetishes, everything listed, both in this intro and on the interest list, are subject to the loves, likes, dislikes and hard limits set by the sub. I take this very seriously, as should the sub. For those that say they have no limits, I am not looking for a doormat. I am looking for a sub who enjoys a lot of the same kinks as I do. I am a sadist with experience primarily in pain, but would love to try out humiliation and the sort which I have limited exposure, and may bring a stronger sense of pleasure. I would love to run the spectrum of physical sensations from subtle and light sensory input by feathers and the sort, to the beginning of pain with light flogging and spanking, to heavier, more robust, forms of pain that will leave the willing masochist laying on the floor begging for me to stop, always with a safeword in mind. I do not tread near what some call bloodplay or bloodsport, or any play that may permanently scar the sub, physically, emotionally or mentally. Now, leaving marks of my love, well that is another story. LOL Now, depending on my mood, I am interested in light to heavy humiliation and degradation, as well. I would love to learn more about bondage and begin learning in shibaru; even though I am curious about suspension, I have no experience in it, and I will have a mentor on site the first few times. I do love ass play, including anilingus (both ways), and anal sex; I have done vaginal fisting and would love to continue, possibly trying anal fisting after conditioning and training the recipient. Doing covert and overt exhibition using bondage, toys and more, and finally, watersports is a like/love of mine. My interests are plentiful so the likelihood finding someone who will match a majority of them is highly unlikely. If you see some of my kinks that make you uncomfortable in a non-BDSM fashion, or are on your hard list, do not hesitate getting in touch with me due to those 2, 3 or 5 kinks I have. There are probably many more that will take their place. (•̀ᴗ•́)و ̑̑ As some may have noticed, I have ADHD, thus the wide interests in BDSM, and life in general, even beyond what is listed, I'm sure. If you do not see a kink listed ask. Most likely I have the same or would be curious to try it. Do not forget, if you see kinks that are uncomfortable in a non-BDSM way, or are on your hard limits list, it is all negotiable (meaning if you do not want to do it, you will not). That said, all of the above interests, kinks and fetishes will take into account the likes and hard limits of the submissive. There is one exception: Housework. I HATESES housework as many of my past relationships will attest, so do know that will be a requirement if any relationship takes shape. If you are still interested PM me. [SIZE 10]When I'm a submissive[/SIZE] There are times when I drop into a passive, submissive mindset. I am not asking the sub to take on a dominant role unless they want to service top for me, instead I am looking for a dom/me (most likely a domme) for these occasions. I think I'm primarily a dominant (always suppressing my submissive tendencies in the past, so do not know). I have passive to aggressive times dependant on my mood. When I drop into submissive times, even to the point of limited masochism, I would love to explore that side (not sure which is the dark side or not). Limited masochism, as far as it goes with me, involves no physical pain, at least major pain. After all I am a sadist, I am allergic to most forms of physical pain. Maybe not. That is a limit I may want to test under the watchful eye of a caring domme. (•‿•) Never have I talked about or asked for a role of being the submissive, both before or after exiting the BDSM closet. So, in other words, I'm not sure what my actual limits will be, save for physical pain. No I am not a doormat. My limits fall in line, at present, with my listed limits, save for physical pain, which I've already mentioned above. A caring domme will, I hope, help me define the extent of those limits: hard, soft, etcetera. Beyond BDSM There are, of course, many other aspects that make me me. Here are a couple: I love anime/manga in all its facets, including ecchi and hentai. Love all things Japanese. I love video games, though I might not be great at some genres, I still enjoy playing. I have several MMOs (Massively Multiplayer Online) games I play and would love to make friends with BDSM community players. Games like Star Wars - The Old Republic, Defiance, The Secret World, APB Reloaded (love to play APB, though usually get my ass handed to me *sigh*), etcetera. I'm disabled. No, not wheelchair bound. I can see, sorta, ◉‿◉ hear, etcetera. Have a few issues that I face and deal with that limit my ability to work. My life is an open book for those interested. If you want to know something about me, ask, beit dealing with BDSM, dominant or submissive mindsets, or not. Well, that is the short of it. If you are interested or curious, PM me. Would love to speak with you and, if it is to be, meet you.

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As far as I'm concerned, the best place to have sex is anywhere I want to experience it. My sexual fantasies include watersports, Daddy/daughter times, Owner/pet play, light to mild bondage, spanking, etc., though they are far from My only fantasies. My feelings on one-night stands are open, though I am not looking for them. If W/we like each other, a longer-term relationship is definitely an option, and what I am actually searching for.

During a sexual encounter or a romantic evening, I prefer to listen to classic rock, electronica, folk music (Scottish, Irish, Arabian, Egyptian, Indian, etc.), or nature music (whales, thunderstorms, etc.). Sometimes, I just like to listen to these forms of music for simple relaxation. I will require my slave to love, like or, at least, not dislike these forms of music.

It would be outstanding if I can find a slavegirl who loves computer/video games. I will love to play with that slavegirl (both bedroom and video style ), but your thoughts on video games do not have to be positive to be taken under My wing.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Led Zepplin, Rush, ELO,

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, The middle of a park, A dark back alley, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, A swimming pool or hot tub

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Hard Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Cross Dressing, Mutual Masturbation, Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Fisting, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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